Should Men Always Bear The Bill Burden On Dates?

One of the touchiest dating issues today has to do with money. Who pays - the man or the woman, and when? Read on to find out...

Once you're into a relationship, you would have worked out what is best for you as a couple, but in the meantime, it's tough to know what's expected of you. Typically, men today are put into a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. Some women are insulted if men always insist on paying. On the other hand, if men don't offer to pay instantly, some women will think that they're just being cheap or ungentlemanly.

There are a couple of general indicators determining which of these three options is taking place. Once you've learned them, you'll be prepared to handle any tricky dating scenario. Take a look and sort out your confusion.

WHEN SHOULD THE MAN PAY

On first dates: First impressions are important. On first dates, it will be the best bet if the man makes the first move when the bill comes. This goes not just for the very first date, but throughout the early stages of the relationship. Paying for things is not just the gentlemanly thing to do, it also indicates that you are responsible, steady and well-established. The girl will be impressed.

If you asked her out: A good general rule when it comes to these situations is to ask yourself, "Who asked who out?" If it was the guy who instigated the date, then he will be expected to pay. In fact, it's good for the man to be prepared to pay, regardless of whether the girl asked him out or not because girls always like it if the guy foots the bill.

On special occasions: For special events, such as an anniversary, birthday, holiday dinners, the man should offer to pay. It makes them appear gracious and classy. Guys should remember not to make a big show of their generosity by letting the girl know how much a meal cost.

WHEN SHOULD THE WOMAN PAY

If she asked you out: Once again, the guy should be ready to pay even if she asked him out. However, in this situation, it's more likely that she will cover both of you, and why not? The date was her idea. Unfortunately, some men still have a problem with letting women pay, but there is no reason to feel insecure if this happens occasionally.

On your birthday: Obviously, this is the one occasion when she should cover her date and he should accept gifts or treats on his special day. She should be more than happy to pay.

If she's adamant about it: If, for whatever reason, she absolutely insists on paying, the simple solution is to just let her. Weigh the cost of angering her versus the slight embarrassment of her whipping out her plastic for both of you in a fancy restaurant.

GO DUTCH

If you're a steady couple: Once you've reached the stage where you're splitting all your bills, you've likely fallen into the steady couple category. At this stage, there is no longer any reason why only the guy should pay for everything, especially if both of you have similar incomes.

On joint purchases: If you're living together or going on a vacation, split all the bills for items or services that you'll both be using. If you're travelling a long distance in her car, pay half the gas money. The opposite situation, if she doesn't immediately offer, there is nothing wrong with suggesting that she should contribute. You can't go wrong if you remember to let her take the lead, and respond accordingly, or be prepared to pay the whole bill.

So enjoy yourselves without worrying about expenses.

Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of http://www.datersmanual.com where he provides relationship advice for women and dating tips for men to help in building healthy and successful relationships. Also, visit his website http://www.loversmanual.com for healthy sex education and learn the modern sex techniques and tips to create more passion and intimacy into your love life and relationships.

By Michael Douglas
Published: 4/28/2007

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How to Make a Lasting Impression on Her

Know how to make a lasting impression on her and achieve dating success. Get the relationship you've always wanted with the girl of your dreams.

You saw the girl of your dreams and in your mind and heart you want to give it a shot to meet her.This could make or break you and you need to do the right things to make a lasting impression on her. They say that you only have one chance to make a good impression. Her are some tips for you.

Relax and be yourself. It maybe nerve wracking to finally meet and talk with the girl of your dreams for the first time but try to control your anxiety. It maybe flattering for her to see you a little bit nervous but do not let your nervousness control you. To make a lasting impression on her, just be yourself, relax and enjoy the moment with her.

Look at your best. This is a very basic requirement to make a lasting impression on her. You are just in the getting to know each other stage and you may get judged by the way you look. Look at your best, nice hair cut, good hygiene, choose clothing that match your personality and carry yourself well. Outside appearance counts if you want to make a lasting impression.

Look her in the eye. This is a very powerful way to connect and make a lasting impression on her. Some women admitted that they go out with a guy because he kept an eye contact with them. When you finally meet her, keep an eye contact while she is talking to show that you are interested not only with the words she is saying but because you are interested with her.

Make her laugh. When the situation gets awkward or you do not know what to say or do, simply break the ice by throwing a nice joke and make her laugh. Most women are worrier and they love to be with guys who have sense of humor. You will definitely make a lasting impression on her if you can make her laugh and forget her worries while she is with you.

Be a gentleman and treat her well. In this modern dating world, sometimes men forget about chivalry. It maybe dead for some men, but proves that you are different. Treating her well will always make a lasting impression on her. Open doors for her and treat her like a princess and she will never forget you.

Do you want to learn the techniques to make women compelled to see you again? Learn the secrets of attraction and seduction visit How To Be Irresistible To Women.

To know more about love and dating visit All About Relationships.

Gerry Restrivera writes informative articles on various subjects including How to Make a Lasting Impression on Her. You are allowed to publish this article in its entirety provided that author's name, bio and website links must remain intact and included with every reproduction.

By Gerry Restrivera
Published: 7/23/2008

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Eliminate Your Dating Insecurities Tips

Why it is so important to eliminate your dating insecurities in order to succeed.

Eliminating the insecurities that many people have is to understand the minds of women.

Men find that women are not actually that different and this helps them to become more confident. However this is only after reading so much of the "mysteries" of women etc which is awfully confusing. Well I hope to dispel such a theory and instill a hope and confidence into the minds of men. You see we grow up with genders much apart and see each other as different and there is a stigmatism attached to the genders.

One of the biggest troubles that men have with women is that they are actually unable to communicate properly and instead come across as the silent type or insecure. However this is not actually how they are at all and this communication barrier that exists between the genders is the one barrier that if you cross women will be at your finger tips. You will have noticed that the guys who are truly good at dating are defiantly able to communicate with women very well. They have jumped the barrier ling ago.

Are you still on the other side?
Viewing women in a different way is the biggest step to overcoming this barrier that has been holding you back. If you could only dispel this feeling whenever you are near a beautiful women you could really see the potential that is inside you. This feeling I believe comes from a young age, you may not have been subjected or forced to talk to girls that much and hence now feel like they are different in some way? There may be other uncovered reasons why and you may have to do some searching and really find out where the insecurities lie.

One things for sure though. There is a sure fire method of eliminating this fear an jumping over that barrier that is still holding you back. Holding you back in probably many other areas of your life too?
This method works on every other fear to and you may have heard of it. Just one word...

EXPOSURE. It is hard to fathom that this is all you need but managed correctly this should be all you need to overcome any fear. Try and go up to a girl you feel comfortable around even your sister if you have to and just talk to them. Ask them every question about women you have (well not every question) ,this should begin to get your confidence up and you should soon be able to talk to really beautiful women confidently. Don’t rush the process of exposure and gradually work up in incremental steps of what you feel comfortable with.

And remember that even the best get nervous at times, It is natural to get a little nervous so don’t beat yourself up about it.

Good luck with all your dating endeavors from the PullingLadies Dating team.

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By Stergis Mcormick
Published: 8/1/2008

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