Eight Quick Speed Dating Tips

Get into the swing of things right from the start. Keeping these speed dating tips in mind will make your first speed dating experience more relaxing and help you put your best foot forward.

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Tried the new speed dating craze? These speed dating tips will help you get into the swing of things right from the start. You may be hesitant to try speed dating because you think you can’t learn much in three to five minutes about someone, or because you feel uncomfortable trying to express yourself in such a short period of time. But if you go into speed dating with a positive attitude and the right perspective, you can have a great time and break the ice with some wonderful singles. Keeping these speed dating tips in mind will help:

Pay Attention to Your Appearance

The evening is designed to be fun and relaxed, but your first impression will inevitably be how you look. Women, dress in something you would wear on a great evening out with friends – attractive, fun and not too seductive. Men, don’t show up in jeans and a tee-shirt – take it up a notch. Remember, every single at the event will be meeting dozens of other men and women – looking great will make you stand out from the crowd.

Smile and Relax

The simplest speed dating tips to remember are sometimes the most important – like putting the person you’re talking to at ease. How do you do this? Smile and relax! An honest, open smile will help the people you meet more comfortable. Be aware of your own nervous habits, too. Don’t tap your fingers or feet constantly – others will key in on it as either nerves or boredom.

Watch Your Body Language

Slouching is no good; neither is crossing your arms across your chest. These will give the impression of being either (again!) bored or defensive. If you lean forward slightly, you’ll convey interest. Keep you hands free and on the table. Gesturing some during conversation is fine and can help you make a dynamic point, but don’t flail about.

Don’t Drink Too Much Alcohol

You want to be on your best behavior and completely focused. Alcohol will dull your wits and your attention, which is fatal in speed dating, when you’re trying to learn as much as you can quickly. There’s also the chance you’ll do or say something stupid – ouch! You don’t want to ruin your chances in four minutes or less.

Keep the Conversation Flowing

Ask open-ended questions when starting conversations; it will keep the conversation flowing. Asking, "where do you work?" doesn’t give the other person much to work with. Asking, "What’s your favorite childhood memory?" or "Who would you most like to meet in the world?" will naturally lead to discussions of why and comparing notes for the two of you.

Focus on the Other Person

This is probably one of the most important speed dating tips. Focus the conversation on learning more about the person you’re sitting across from than on advertising yourself. Everyone enjoys talking about things they’re passionate about. Find out what the person’s passion is, and ask questions that will draw them out.

Follow up Without Pressure

At the end of the evening or a few days later, you’ll receive contact information for people you expressed an interest in who felt the same way. Send a short, friendly email to let them know you enjoyed meeting them and thanking them. Don’t send a novel and don’t pester them if they don’t answer within a few hours or even the same day. The person may be genuinely interested, but very busy, so give them a few days to respond.

Have Fun!

Don’t make each speed date a test or challenge. Simply look at it as an opportunity to meet lots of interesting people and make some new friends. If you do these simple speed dating tips, you’ll find yourself enjoying the evening for its own sake. If a few dates come out of it, they will be a wonderful bonus.

Keeping these speed dating tips in mind will make your first speed dating experience more relaxing and help you put your best foot forward. Good luck and happy dating!

About the Author:

Kevin Urban is the publisher and editor of Dating-Site-Advisor.com, a handy resource on the best online dating web sites & matchmaking services. Find love online with free dating tips for men and reviews that include the best Asian dating services and local sites.

Copyright 2006 Dating-Site-Advisor.com

By Kevin Urban
Published: 7/1/2006

What is Speed Dating?

A fascinating way of meeting singles and bringing love into your life...

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Dating has been the oldest form of meeting singles. However, the ways did change with passage of time. In the beginning era of newspapers and magazines, people used to search other singles or they some time publish their own ads, showing willingness to meet someone. Once the telephone became popular as great mode of communication, phone dating took place.

Invention of Internet is, perhaps one of the greatest one in late twentieth century. Internet has connected people of any part of the world together. Now, online dating has over-taken all previous means of dating. Needless to say, you can find thousands, even millions of singles of same age, location, language who are equally eager to find mates.

Speed dating is nothing but the fastest way of meeting many available singles in person quickly in one time. In Speed Date event, singles get together at the reserved place such as restaurant, bar, hall and spend fixed time to spend for "speed dating" with someone before moving to meet the next.

Speed dating provided by online dating service is getting very popular among singles for many reasons. The great advantage of Speed Dating is it is fast, it is fun. By spending few minutes with someone you can know if you can get along with whom you are chatting. Speed dating provides lots of opportunity to meet various singles at one time, hence choice is tremendous. You can sit and chat with the person you like and find out if your chemistry matches or not. Meeting someone face to face makes lots of difference in your dating life. Speed dating reduces the chances of trials as all singles who come to attend Speed Date even have already decided to meet you.

Speed dating, in fact, is a great fun for daters. This is also useful for people having less or no time to meet singles otherwise. There is nothing better opportunity of meeting singles than attending such speed dating events. Even one meeting could bring the love in your life you are looking for so many years. Many online dating services occasionally arrange Speed Dating events for their members. It is a great opportunity for singles to become members and reap the benefit of attending Speed Dating, whenever it occurs.

You may visit at http:///www.datingservices-online.net to know more about dating.

Linda Crowford is associated with with online dating service and dating services online. She is an author for many successful and ebooks written on human relationship specially romance, dating, marriage and divorce.

By Linda Crowford
Published: 9/8/2006

Is Speed Dating for You?

More and more singles are giving Speed Dating a try. However, it's not for everyone. Especially for the shy types, it can be quite daunting indeed.

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Speed dating started up within the Jewish community in Los Angeles in the 1990s. It has become a popular way to screen dates quickly and safely. Typically, participants pay a set fee for the evening. They are introduced to several potential partners with each "date" lasting anywhere from three to eight minutes. At the end of the evening, participants let organizers know which dates they’d like to see again. If two people have selected each other, the organizers will provide them with contact information so they can get together and set up a more traditional date.

Members of speed dating say it removes the uncertainty from the dating situation. There is no guessing if the other person might be available or might be in the correct frame of mind to date. The very fact that the other person is at the speed dating event shows that he or she is single and avaliable. Speed dating makes it easy for singles to meet several eligible people in a short period of time. Traditional dates usually take up an entire evening, even if one person realizes in the first five minutes that the other person is not for them. At a speed dating event, the mismatched date takes up only a fraction of the evening.

Finally, speed dating definitely favors those who are attractive, warm, and outgoing and favors attractive participants with outgoing personalities. The person who is not especially attractive, or who is shy and takes a little while to "warm up" will usually not get a fair shake at speed dating events. These people are better suited for other types of dating that allow time to get acquainted before a final decision about future dates is reached.

Also, speed dating relies heavily on first impressions, and as we all know, may be inaccurate. The eager-go-getter from the five minute date may turn into a male slug after a few weeks of dating, and the dream girl of the five minute date may easily turn into the shrew of the five hour date a week later. Speed daters should always remember "Let the buyer beware."

Kerry Ng is a successful Webmaster and publisher of The Dating Blog. For more helpful information about Dating visit datinginfoblog.com

By Kerry Ng Published: 7/26/2007

Innovative Dating Ideas for Expressing Your Love!

An ideal date is that which gives you an idea about some innovative and artistic reflection. Usually this happens when the couple that is dating does not consider themselves to be friends first. Friendship is important for any romance, and fun is important to all friendship.

When you are ready to ask your beloved one out on a date, the very question comes in your mind, "What are we going to do on our date?" or "Where shall we spend the evening tighter?"

This question can be particularly hard on the first date because you are trying to make a good impression and you may or may not know your partner’s likes and dislike.

Some people take dating too seriously. Usually this happens when the couple that is dating does not consider themselves to be friends first. Friendship is important for any romance, and fun is important to all friendship. So, remember if your date is going downhill because of lack of a romantic atmosphere your thought should be there, maybe it is time for you to reconsider the purpose of the date and try to excite it up with some fun first.

I think watching the sunset is a very romantic dating idea. The evening sky changes its color as the sun sinks below the horizon. Creating or presenting an atmosphere that's conducive to intimacy is the key. An ideal date is that in which give you an idea about some innovative and artistic reflection.

Some inexpensive ideas for you
Just imagine for a moment, you are going out with a guy/girl having movie tickets in your hand and planned for a candle-light dinner and a long drive exactly like every other boring people always do. But if you need a great dating idea, a time full of excitement, thrill, memories and sparks, how would you make your dreams come true?

Going out for dinner and a movie is definitely one of the most popular dating couples experience! However, it is also one of the very most awful - especially for those teenagers’ couples who are early in the dating period. You can make a picnic date ideas and tips on making dinner date the most creative and romantic conceivable - without spending a lot of money or time in preparation.

I always tried to extend the imagination and do something interesting, creative, exceptional, unique and different. I constantly scour books, magazines for new and interesting dating ideas, and finally it was this year that I decided it was time to put all of these dating ideas into a book so that everyone could have access to the best dating ideas.

Imagine if you had a way to virtually guarantee that you'd get another date anytime you wanted - with a hot, good-looking girl or a cool handsome guy? Now you can do that just with the Unique and Creative Dating Ideas. These dating ideas are the very best at really setting the first impression. Go on with one of these dating ideas for a first date, and your chances for a second date will just improve appreciably!

Your dating ideas will be so impressive to your dates that they will positively tell all their friends how romantic and innovative you are.

By Indrani Bhattacherjee
Published: 9/18/2008

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