Relationship Dating: What Are They Doing Now?

Dating someone you really hit it off with is incredible experience. Everyday things get better and the thrill of the relationship makes you want more of it. So how can wanting more of it be such a bad thing?

You and your date just cannot get enough of being together. When you both are at work you are constantly emailing each other or doing the instant messaging thing. When you go on your break you start texting each other. Then comes lunch time. Luckily you both work in the same proximity so you can get together. Yes the two of you always have a great time; you don't eat much but you still have a great time nonetheless.

Then it's back to work for more texting, messaging and emailing. Finally the work day is over and the two of you get together for more fun and excitement. But it doesn't stop there. After your date is over the two of you retreat back to your respective computers for more (you guessed it) messaging, texting and emailing. And tomorrow the routine starts all over again

It all looks and sounds so wonderful in the beginning days of the dating relationship but sometimes too much of a good thing within a short period of time can turn a relationship sour. No one plans to break up but the lack of breathing room has collapsed many a couple who vowed endless love to each other.

There are several reasons for this turnabout:

1. Information Overload

It's like eating your favorite food. In the beginning you cannot get enough of it but after awhile you eat so much that you get sick of it. Emailing, phoning, texting and all the rest may be cute during the beginning and even the middle periods of the dating relationship but too much on a constant basis is just asking for trouble.

2. Time

It has a way of rubbing the glow off any relationship. Not so much the love and respect which should hopefully always be there but the infatuation and rush of emotions seem to subside after awhile.

Some people may say all the more reason to front load the process since time has a tendency to strip away the magic. That's true to an extent but time can also give you the perception of things crowding in on you which creates undue stress. This can go for anything including your dating relationship.

3. Resentment

Your date thought it was so cute in the beginning. Not anymore. It's not that they have discussed it with you but their responses to your flood of communication are not as quick as they used to be. It could be that things have come up and they are busy taking care of business. Sometimes it's the other side. Your constant interruptions start them to thinking you are just checking up on them. In other words you are not doing anything but spying and maybe trying to control them. It's been known to happening.

There's no other way to get to know one another except by maintaining contact. But in this life there is unfortunately something called "too much of a good thing." As strongly as you feel about your dating partner the best thing you can do to make sure the relationship grows is to show some restraint and give the other person ample breathing room.

Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip – Warning: Relationships often shatter without these 4 things.

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By Daryl Campbell
Published: 11/4/2008

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Dating Relationship Tip: Don't Let Them Trash You

A little give and take in the dating relationship is okay but when it starts to get one sided then be on your guard.

It started with the subtle digs, disguised as jokes. You have a pretty good sense of humor so in the beginning you took it in stride. As a matter of fact you gave it right back to your dating partner. You figured a little verbal sparring laced with humor was okay. It showed that both of you could tale it and it kept you on your toes.

You cannot recall when it happened but somewhere along the line the digs at you stopped being so subtle; in fact they got a little stronger and a lot less humorous. You told your dating partner this more than once but they swore that you were wrong. They explained it away by saying the two of you were just getting more comfortable with each other.

Again you let it go. After all it doesn't happen with any particular regularity. Besides you always manage to hold your own and you really do like this person. No complaints about the times you two spend together. Truth to tell it looks like the both of you have gotten serious about each other.

But here it comes again. Not only is it intense but there is no humor at all. This time it is a scathing critique of your flaws and some of your mannerisms. To be sure it catches off guard. You have never acted that way towards them so where did this come from? When you confront them, they tell you to stop being so sensitive. Can't you take a little joke?

Only you know they were not joking and they know it too. Nobody who really cares about the person they are going out with would trash them. The chances are you may be going out with someone who is practiced in the art of verbal abuse.

They are not doing this exercise to see how much you can take or to gauge whether you would be a worthy adversary for future verbal sparring. The point is to see what makes you tick, force that emotional door open and take control of the relationship.

Be very cautious especially if they are so cavalier when it comes to your feelings or when you do confront them they get very defensive and try to turn the tables back on you.

A little give and take in the relationship is okay as long as both parties are okay with it and it is laced with caring, humor and affection. However if one person starts to become the constant initiator and aggressor then watch out. They are probably looking to tip the balance of the relationship overwhelmingly in their favor.

Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip - It's not love or caring or even just providing a candid evaluation. In essence, relentless criticism only serves one purpose.

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By Daryl Campbell
Published: 11/11/2008

Dating Relationship Tip: Don't Let Them Trash You

A little give and take in the dating relationship is okay but when it starts to get one sided then be on your guard.

It started with the subtle digs, disguised as jokes. You have a pretty good sense of humor so in the beginning you took it in stride. As a matter of fact you gave it right back to your dating partner. You figured a little verbal sparring laced with humor was okay. It showed that both of you could tale it and it kept you on your toes.

You cannot recall when it happened but somewhere along the line the digs at you stopped being so subtle; in fact they got a little stronger and a lot less humorous. You told your dating partner this more than once but they swore that you were wrong. They explained it away by saying the two of you were just getting more comfortable with each other.

Again you let it go. After all it doesn't happen with any particular regularity. Besides you always manage to hold your own and you really do like this person. No complaints about the times you two spend together. Truth to tell it looks like the both of you have gotten serious about each other.

But here it comes again. Not only is it intense but there is no humor at all. This time it is a scathing critique of your flaws and some of your mannerisms. To be sure it catches off guard. You have never acted that way towards them so where did this come from? When you confront them, they tell you to stop being so sensitive. Can't you take a little joke?

Only you know they were not joking and they know it too. Nobody who really cares about the person they are going out with would trash them. The chances are you may be going out with someone who is practiced in the art of verbal abuse.

They are not doing this exercise to see how much you can take or to gauge whether you would be a worthy adversary for future verbal sparring. The point is to see what makes you tick, force that emotional door open and take control of the relationship.

Be very cautious especially if they are so cavalier when it comes to your feelings or when you do confront them they get very defensive and try to turn the tables back on you.

A little give and take in the relationship is okay as long as both parties are okay with it and it is laced with caring, humor and affection. However if one person starts to become the constant initiator and aggressor then watch out. They are probably looking to tip the balance of the relationship overwhelmingly in their favor.

Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip - It's not love or caring or even just providing a candid evaluation. In essence, relentless criticism only serves one purpose.

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By Daryl Campbell
Published: 11/11/2008

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Finally Ready to Meet the One?

When you get divorced, how long should you wait before you begin to date again? Only your children should be considered in answering this question.

When you go through a divorce it feels like you are grieving a death and basically, that’s precisely what you are doing. A divorce is the death of a marriage. It takes time to "get through it" and get the grief processed. You need to grieve and go through the stages of grief. If you have been divorced awhile, you may be ready to start dating again. Before you start to take this important step, you need to do some evaluating.

First of all, you need to assess how long you have been divorced. Has it been a month, six months, a year? Everyone’s time frame for when it is appropriate for you to start dating will vary. The only people that you need to consider when making this decision are your children. I’m not saying that you need to ask their permission; they might not be accepting of the idea for a while. I’m just saying that it is your job to assess the situation. How have they been acting? Do they ask you about finding some one new? How old are they? Are they little kids who really don’t understand the situation fully, or are they older kids who really do know what is going on?

Second of all, you need to figure out your approach. If you do start dating, are you going to be open about it or keep it a secret from your children until you find some one that you want to be serious with? I have seen people take both of these paths. In my opinion, being open from the start is better. You may be opposed to this at first, but it really does ease them into the whole process. When a parent keeps it from them and all of a sudden is like "WHAM! This is my new boyfriend/girlfriend." It’s a lot for some children to handle all at once.

Third, you have to actually start dating! How is that going to happen? Are people already trying to fix you up? Do you have someone in mind already that you are interested in? Would you prefer to join some kind of dating service?

This should be an exciting time for you. You might not have been on a date in a long time, but it will all come rushing back. It’s good to get past the grief of your divorce, begin dating again and meet new people even if nothing develops romantically. You can never have too many friends to share time and conversation with.

By Len Stauffenger Published: 4/4/2008

5 Steps to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back!

5 simple strategies that can help you win back an ex-girlfriend.

Winning back an ex is a very difficult thing to do. It’s a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances increase dramatically. So follow these 5 steps and you will have a good shot at getting back together with them.

1. Don’t Ask to Get Back Together

If you have taken a break or she broke up with you, you should never ask to get back together. Why? Simple, because the answer will be NO!eYou’re only shot at getting them back is to do the right things that will make them ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.

But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get a girls attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.

So don’t ignore someone’s texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. So how’s the right way? You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show her that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.

2 Maintain Confidence And Composure

You can’t guilt someone back and you can’t make someone feel sorry enough to take you back. It’s ok to tell her that you are sad and upset that it didn’t work, but never tell her that you are devastated or that you are thinking of committing suicide or some junk like that. I know everyone’s first response when a girl hurts them is to tell her how she broke your heart and that you don’t think you will ever date again, and what a wreck you are without her. Why? When you feel like you have been wronged, you want retribution, which you will probably get but it will be in the form of an apology. Or you want to make them see that they made a mistake.. ha! Think about it, I’m sure they are thinking "Wow I can’t believe I left the guy who calls me crying everyday telling me how his life is ruined."

3 Do Something!

It’s not enough to just say that you are fine and that you are happy. If it’s not at least visibly true, she will never believe it. You have to go out, have fun, and be seen. Not only will this help take your mind off of her, it will validate all the things you have been saying to her.

If she sees, or even better, hears that you are out having fun, be ready because she WILL call you out on it... Don't let this shake you. This is a crucial step in getting her back, but only a step. If you back down and tell her that you are so devastated that she left you that you have to do something to take your mind off of her, it will only reaffirm her feelings about why she left you.

4 Don't Be Jealous

Listen carefully... SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it will probably be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow i know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you aren’t together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.

So how do you fight off the urge to fly off the handle and tell her what a whore she is and that you would never do something like that to her? You just don’t do it. If you don’t want to get her back, then by all means, freak out all you want. But if you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.

5 Remind Her Why She Fell For You In The First Place

The purpose of these suggestions is to get back what you once had. If you were in a serious relationship, then there was a time when she was attracted to you. For whatever reason, she left because she lost that attraction. Girls make decisions based on emotions (in this case attraction) not logic. Yes, I know there are exceptions to the rule. But they are just that…exceptions.

So in order to get her back you have to build that attraction again. This is very difficult to do once you’ve lost it, but it’s the only way you will get her back for good. You do it by going back to the way you were when you first met, and doing the things you did when you first met. Mainly, you have to look like a guy that is fun to be around, a guy that has other options, and a guy that she doesn’t know whether he likes her or not. You have to show her that your life is great without her and that your happiness doesn’t depend on her decisions. If you can put the attraction back into her, you stand a very high chance of getting her back. If she regains that attraction, she will be the one that comes back to you.

To learn more ways to win back your ex and make your relationship better, check out: www.relationshipmastery101.com

By Lance Taylor
Published: 6/3/2008

How To Please A Woman and

Make Her Think About You All The Time

This article reveals how you can conquer the obstacles to the female heart and learn how to please a woman.

A man's nature is primal. It does not require any conscious thought from his end; but instead, he relies on the deep urges that seems to boil out from his inner being. In truth, a man's need is centered on his ego – to get what he wants and nothing else. This causes him to be clueless when it comes to knowing how to please a woman.

The female species, on the other hand, has always been an enigma to the common man. Even if they are equipped with a single brain, they project different personalities and mind set that often drives their male counterpart crazy. But in truth, this is practically the reason why they are irresistible to the opposite sex – the challenge that they give. Are you ready to conquer the obstacles to the female heart and learn how to please a woman?

Understanding Women

The only way to know how to please a woman is to know the different personalities that they show to the outside world.

Usually, these personalities often leave men dumbfounded as they switch from one mood to another in a blink of an eye. But truth to tell, understanding these mood swings is one way to know exactly what she wants you to do.

These mood swings happen for a reason, and when you know what's behind it, you can take steps in giving her what she wants to keep her happy.

Women like to talk. Whether they are in a good mood or bad, they usually voice out their emotions to their partners. Listening and being attentive while your woman is in one of these mood swings is a great way to determine what she really wants.

Be attentive and keep your emotions in check, even if their rants and raves are directed at you.

Showing Affection

If you really want to know how to please a woman and win her heart, you need to show her the affection she deserves. She might look intimidating on the outside, but she craves for loving affection within.

Note, however, that words and emotions are not enough to win a woman's heart; you need to back it up with action as you go along. For starters, you can pamper her by giving her a good massage when she comes home from work. Or prepare a romantic dinner for you and your woman to enjoy. And while you're at it, get some wine to help both of you relax as you adjourn to the living room for a quiet and romantic evening.

Knowing how to please a woman and understanding her desire to be loved are great ways to win her affection. She might be shocked at first by the sudden change in your personality; but keep up the good work until you see that lovely smile that often turns men's legs to jelly.

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By Michael Lee
Published: 6/6/2008

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Why Men are still dating WRONG

Pointers on common dating mistakes and how to correct them. Why men are inherently hardwired to me bad daters and ways to fix this.

This Article will cover some of the biggest flaw in dating women that men make. This article is based on the differences in thinking between the two genders. Men fail to see themselves through the eyes of a women hence continually find themselves making the same mistakes over and over. If this happens to be you, not to worry because there is so much information out there to help you on your way to dating success.

Men on dates are too goal orientated when it comes to dating women, which hinders there success.

Men approach the task of dating like they do most other things, as a challenge. Rather than letting the experience manifest itself naturally, men on dates can seem rushed and preoccupied.

Constantly trying to impress and come up with a new exiting thing to say comes across unnatural and forced. It doesn’t and shouldn’t have to be this way as dating should be a fun and interesting experience for both parties.

Remember this one thing if nothing else:
If you start to feel nervous and lost for words which are a common occurrence for many men on dates, remember that there is a good chance that she is thinking the same thing you are. If you’re nervous you’re probably making her feel nervous. If you feel like the date is going great then it probably is. Trust your instincts and be yourself and if you don’t impress her then its not meant to be.

There are many many fish in the sea and its all to common for a guy to get hooked on a girl for years even though she has moved on years ago.

Don’t put women on a pedestal because you think they are some beautiful magical creature. Women are wonderful to be around and lots of fun but remember that they really aren’t that different than you or I.

If you start treating them like they are god they wont respect you for it, this may seem counter intuitive but believe it or not women like to be treated bad once in awhile. I Am not saying for a second here not to pamper them-do not confuse me with a chauvinist.
You no how you sometimes see those average looking guys with the really hot chicks? You think to yourself what the hell… right? What is he doing that I’m not.

This one topic can make men go mad but all he is doing is coming across as the dominant male.

You have to have some confidence about you in order to attract a lady. Women want to feel that you are in control of the situation and can protect them.

This happens to be a very useful trait in women because it means even if your not the best looker you still have a chance to win her heart.

Remember all it really is that wins a woman’s heart in the end is the perception that you are comfortable and confident with yourself. This may manifest itself in many different ways but the underlying message is the same.

Hope you enjoyed my advice on the topic of Common dating mistakes.
Good luck with all your endeavors.

By Stergis Mcormick
Published: 7/12/2008

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