5 simple strategies that can help you win back an ex-girlfriend.
Winning back an ex is a very difficult thing to do. It’s a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances increase dramatically. So follow these 5 steps and you will have a good shot at getting back together with them.
1. Don’t Ask to Get Back Together
If you have taken a break or she broke up with you, you should never ask to get back together. Why? Simple, because the answer will be NO!eYou’re only shot at getting them back is to do the right things that will make them ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.
But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get a girls attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.
So don’t ignore someone’s texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. So how’s the right way? You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show her that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.
2 Maintain Confidence And Composure
You can’t guilt someone back and you can’t make someone feel sorry enough to take you back. It’s ok to tell her that you are sad and upset that it didn’t work, but never tell her that you are devastated or that you are thinking of committing suicide or some junk like that. I know everyone’s first response when a girl hurts them is to tell her how she broke your heart and that you don’t think you will ever date again, and what a wreck you are without her. Why? When you feel like you have been wronged, you want retribution, which you will probably get but it will be in the form of an apology. Or you want to make them see that they made a mistake.. ha! Think about it, I’m sure they are thinking "Wow I can’t believe I left the guy who calls me crying everyday telling me how his life is ruined."
3 Do Something!
It’s not enough to just say that you are fine and that you are happy. If it’s not at least visibly true, she will never believe it. You have to go out, have fun, and be seen. Not only will this help take your mind off of her, it will validate all the things you have been saying to her.
If she sees, or even better, hears that you are out having fun, be ready because she WILL call you out on it... Don't let this shake you. This is a crucial step in getting her back, but only a step. If you back down and tell her that you are so devastated that she left you that you have to do something to take your mind off of her, it will only reaffirm her feelings about why she left you.
4 Don't Be Jealous
Listen carefully... SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it will probably be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow i know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you aren’t together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.
So how do you fight off the urge to fly off the handle and tell her what a whore she is and that you would never do something like that to her? You just don’t do it. If you don’t want to get her back, then by all means, freak out all you want. But if you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.
5 Remind Her Why She Fell For You In The First Place
The purpose of these suggestions is to get back what you once had. If you were in a serious relationship, then there was a time when she was attracted to you. For whatever reason, she left because she lost that attraction. Girls make decisions based on emotions (in this case attraction) not logic. Yes, I know there are exceptions to the rule. But they are just that…exceptions.
So in order to get her back you have to build that attraction again. This is very difficult to do once you’ve lost it, but it’s the only way you will get her back for good. You do it by going back to the way you were when you first met, and doing the things you did when you first met. Mainly, you have to look like a guy that is fun to be around, a guy that has other options, and a guy that she doesn’t know whether he likes her or not. You have to show her that your life is great without her and that your happiness doesn’t depend on her decisions. If you can put the attraction back into her, you stand a very high chance of getting her back. If she regains that attraction, she will be the one that comes back to you.
To learn more ways to win back your ex and make your relationship better, check out: www.relationshipmastery101.com
1. Don’t Ask to Get Back Together
If you have taken a break or she broke up with you, you should never ask to get back together. Why? Simple, because the answer will be NO!eYou’re only shot at getting them back is to do the right things that will make them ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.
But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get a girls attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.
So don’t ignore someone’s texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. So how’s the right way? You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show her that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.
2 Maintain Confidence And Composure
You can’t guilt someone back and you can’t make someone feel sorry enough to take you back. It’s ok to tell her that you are sad and upset that it didn’t work, but never tell her that you are devastated or that you are thinking of committing suicide or some junk like that. I know everyone’s first response when a girl hurts them is to tell her how she broke your heart and that you don’t think you will ever date again, and what a wreck you are without her. Why? When you feel like you have been wronged, you want retribution, which you will probably get but it will be in the form of an apology. Or you want to make them see that they made a mistake.. ha! Think about it, I’m sure they are thinking "Wow I can’t believe I left the guy who calls me crying everyday telling me how his life is ruined."
3 Do Something!
It’s not enough to just say that you are fine and that you are happy. If it’s not at least visibly true, she will never believe it. You have to go out, have fun, and be seen. Not only will this help take your mind off of her, it will validate all the things you have been saying to her.
If she sees, or even better, hears that you are out having fun, be ready because she WILL call you out on it... Don't let this shake you. This is a crucial step in getting her back, but only a step. If you back down and tell her that you are so devastated that she left you that you have to do something to take your mind off of her, it will only reaffirm her feelings about why she left you.
4 Don't Be Jealous
Listen carefully... SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it will probably be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow i know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you aren’t together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.
So how do you fight off the urge to fly off the handle and tell her what a whore she is and that you would never do something like that to her? You just don’t do it. If you don’t want to get her back, then by all means, freak out all you want. But if you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.
5 Remind Her Why She Fell For You In The First Place
The purpose of these suggestions is to get back what you once had. If you were in a serious relationship, then there was a time when she was attracted to you. For whatever reason, she left because she lost that attraction. Girls make decisions based on emotions (in this case attraction) not logic. Yes, I know there are exceptions to the rule. But they are just that…exceptions.
So in order to get her back you have to build that attraction again. This is very difficult to do once you’ve lost it, but it’s the only way you will get her back for good. You do it by going back to the way you were when you first met, and doing the things you did when you first met. Mainly, you have to look like a guy that is fun to be around, a guy that has other options, and a guy that she doesn’t know whether he likes her or not. You have to show her that your life is great without her and that your happiness doesn’t depend on her decisions. If you can put the attraction back into her, you stand a very high chance of getting her back. If she regains that attraction, she will be the one that comes back to you.
To learn more ways to win back your ex and make your relationship better, check out: www.relationshipmastery101.com
By Lance Taylor
Published: 6/3/2008
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