Dating Advice

How should I dress up for my date? How safe is it to go on a blind date? Am I supposed pay the bill? Is it okay to have sex on the first date? Read on for some useful dating advice...

I don't understand the whole dating thing. I know right off the bat if I'm interested in someone, and I don't want them to waste their money on me and take me out to eat if I know I'm not interested in that person. ~ Britney Spears

Well, not everyone might be as good as Britney Spears when it comes to choosing the right guy…Dating is one of the best options for people to go out, spend time with each other and explore the possibility of a blossoming romance. However not every date can be a cakewalk and hence here is some dating advice that you could use while you continue your hunt for Mr. Right or Ms. Right…

Choose the Right Venue

While asking out someone for a date think of a venue that you are sure you will be comfortable with. In case you are expecting a little awkwardness and jitters on the first date think of fun venues that might help you break the ice. For example you can go bowling, fishing, or just catch a movie together. In case you already know the person and feel confident enough, go for a candlelight dinner, a walk on the beach, star gazing and so on. Always think of places that will be interesting and fun for both of you.

Do Not have Pre-conceived Ideas About Your Date

Do not have any predetermined ideas about the person you are about to date. If you have a common acquaintance who doesn’t think highly about your date, do not let this affect your point of view. Try and meet the person and see for yourself how the person is. Always go out on a date with a open mind, without expecting any specifics and there is a chance you’ll return with a smile on your face.

Be Comfortable, Be Yourself

It is often said that when you are on a date you should put your best foot forward to create the perfect first impression. Although that might actually help you while dating, the thing that will actually take a long way is being yourself! Do not pretend to be someone that you are not and allow the person to know you and like you for who you are. Dating is about exploring the possibility of compatibility and romance, so comfort is the first thing that you should look for. Do not over-dress and try getting into uncomfortable clothes to impress your date.

Don't Rush - Take Things Slow

Never rush into a relationship while on a date. Let things progress step by step. For example sleeping on the first date might not be a really great idea even if you are in the moment and feel you are getting carried away. Go out for three to four times or as many dates as you require to make sure you like the person. Once you are sure you like the person you can take the relationship to the next level.

Keep the Conversation Going

A good conversation always helps you know a person better. Think of random subjects to talk about but make sure the subject interests your date. Cracking a few jokes might be good idea to break the ice, but make sure your joke and the timing is appropriate. You don’t want to face the embarrassment of cracking a bad joke and getting the ‘That’s not even close to funny’ look from your date. There will be awkward silences and abrupt pauses, but make sure to keep the conversation going. Do not get embarrassed and confused if both of you suddenly seem to be out of topics to chat about. Try and ask your date open-ended questions to take the conversation ahead.

Do Not Lie - Be Honest About Yourself

Dating is about looking out for a perfect companion, and obviously you don’t want to start a relationship with lies. Never lie on a date – be it your work, your salary, your house location, your family background, or any other thing that might come up in a conversation. Be honest to your date. In case you are uncomfortable answering a particular question, say so but do not lie about it.

Do Not Believe in Clichés

This one is especially for the ladies. In an age where we fight about equality of men and women expecting him to get the bill is just plain stupid. The best way is to ‘go dutch’ (each one of you pays for what you have had) or else just split the bill equally. Especially when it is your first date, carry enough money or your credit card to be able to pay for yourself.

Practice Safe Dating

Do not use unreliable sources for dating. Blind dates set up via an unreliable dating bureau or a date planned with your online-friend might turn out to be a great one but be very sure about the reliability of a person in case of blind dates or internet-dates. People you met on the social networking website or in a chat room might not always turn out to be good, there are lots of dangerous people who are on the lookout for victims on the internet. Do not have any suspicious drinks or too much alcohol during the date so that you can remain alert and be in your senses throughout the date.

By Uttara Manohar
Published: 2/29/2008


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Dating Relationship: You Like Your Date But Hate Their Friends

You and your date usually have a great time when you go out together. Not so much when their friends tag along. So what can you do about it?

You and your dating partner have really gotten serious about each other. You have moved to the next level in so many areas. Now it is not like you are talking about marriage or engagement but it has come down to the fact that you want to date each other exclusively.

But there is one strong reservation holding you back. It has nothing to do with your dating partner. You realize they are not faultless and have no qualms about accepting them exactly as they are. No it is not their family either. You have met them on a few occasions and have hit it off quite nicely with mom, dad and siblings.

It's that other crew you have issues with; namely his crummy rotten friends. Try as you might you just cannot seem to warm up to them. Who are we kidding? You can't stand them.

You accept the fact that people are individuals but from your perspective every time you get together with his crew, there is a certain group mentality that takes over which is not to your liking.

To be fair they are not cliquish. As a matter of fact they go out of their way to try to include you in their activities. But you want no part of anything to do with these chowderheads.

So what are your options?

1. End the Relationship

That's right. You know how your date feels about his peeps. They are going to remain an integral part of his life and since you cannot stand them why go forward with the relationship?

2. Tell Your Date How You Feel

Let them know how strongly you feel about them and your feelings and issues with his friends. You have always been truthful with each other and that's as it should be.

They may take it to heart and since they like you so much decide that they will not subject you to going out with his posse. Your date will maintain his friendships but kindly leave you out of their get togethers. If you feel strongly about this person that may be a compromise you can accept.

Or they may take it to heart and decide that they want to end the relationship. No matter how they feel about you nobody is going to pick and choose their friends. These people have seen them through good times and bad. Besides your date has known them a lot longer than they have you. If it comes down to loyalty your date may decide that you lose.

3. Digging

Make a real effort to find out what it is your dating partner likes about his friends and try to see if you can get on that level. Or see if you can connect with some of them on a one to one basis. Sometimes when a bunch of people get together they can get caught up in group think but you might find each individual is nothing like you thought they were.

You and your date like what you have got going on. If you want to build on that then you are going to accept their friends or not. Your date has made it clear they are an important part of his or her life. For them how you get along with his friends may determine whether the two of you have a future together.

Relationship Dating: This Cannot Be Their Family

You checked your birth certificate and you are from planet earth. So is your date. Their family? You are not so sure.

Count your blessings that this date is finally over. No it has nothing to do with your date. As a matter of fact the two of you have been hitting it off pretty good. No it has not gotten to the marriage talk stage but you both feel you have a future together.

After tonight you are not so sure. This was the first time you met their family and in many way you wish it was the last time. Sure things started out okay. Mom, dad, brother and sister greeted you warmly and exchanged all the correct pleasantries. Unfortunately from that moment on it all went downhill.

As the evening wore on you came to several conclusions:

a. Dad is an obnoxious jerk

b. Junior is studying for his entrance exam into Moron University

c. Mother is the nosiest human being you have ever met in your life

d. The sister is suffering from a severe case of SRS commonly known as snide remark syndrome.

You periodically turn to your date during the course of the evening and swear to yourself that they could not possible be from this family. You can convince yourself that your date is a scientist here to do a case study. Of course it's not true but it did help you get though the evening.

Now you've got a situation on your hands. You feel strongly about your dating partner but the very thought of visiting that family again let alone having them as in laws makes you physically ill.

So what can you do about it?

1. Get Over It

You love your dating partner so you accept the fact that their family is an important part of their life. You grin and bear it while telling yourself that if the two you decide to get married it's not like they are going to move in with you. You hope and pray.

2. Get To Know Them

First impressions are lasting impressions but they are not the only impressions. If and when you are invited back, try to go in with an open mind. See if there is so common ground that can make the visit easier. Or see if they have interest that you have always been curious about. Sometimes once you get past the initial shock, you discover things are not as bad as they appear.

3. Get Going

Just forget it. You tell yourself that your date is a wonderful person but there is no way you can deal with their family. If you go this route be up front with your dating partner. Understand they may give you an earful for having that type of attitude but at least you didn't try to con then them.

Now your dating partner may be sympathetic to your cause. They may love their family but accept the fact they are not to everyone's taste. Therefore listen if they offer some options which will keep the relationship going. If you feel as you say you do than do not make them beg and do everything with reason to see if the two of you can work out a compromise.

Catch him and Keep him...

I came across a book by a guy who was basically telling men what to do get a girl in bed. "How to bag a (insert naughty word here) buddy in 10 days!" The title proudly proclaimed. I chuckled to myself, thinking of all the immature men who would seriously believe there was such a thing, plunking down whatever outrageous fee for the book, only to be disappointed by the fact that (a) no self respecting woman would allow herself to be used like some sort of inflatable doll for his pleasure, (b) a platonic sex relationship can often get just as complicated, if not more so, as a regular long term one, (c) even if he did find such a relationship, it grows old very fast, for both of you, no matter what a man may think.

Sorry, you can't dodge responsibility.

When I visited Catch Him and Keep Him , I felt I was viewing the female equivalent of the above ideology.

The site promises the female visitor that they are "about to learn the secrets that most women will never know about meeting and keeping great men."

It author of said wondrous secrets says that they can make your relationship cheat proof, reveal the five things that women do that kill intimacy, and tell you how to spot a great guy. Once you sign up, you are treated to what is essentially an advertisement for an e-book, with the option to obtain a seven-day trial.

In much the manner of a fortuneteller revealing that they have envisioned a tall dark stranger in your future, this site is a trickster designed to fool people into going against their own instincts.

I mean, what happened to simply being real? How, if you are trying to recall a bevy of rules, are you being yourself?

When I finally met the man I eventually married, I had played all the games, tried to listen to "The Rules", bought into the Oprah/Dr Phil Logic of the day and finally said, "You know what! I am tired, I just want to be myself, and if the person doesn't like it, then lump him!"

Luckily, prior to our date, my future hubby had decided the same thing.

We got together, no rules, just a boy and a girl meeting, who saw one another, and fell, in love.

As a matter of fact, on our second date he told me, "Hey this is me, all of me, take it or leave it."

I grinned at him and said, "I'll take it!"

To me the rules are simple. Be yourself, for as the old saying goes, it is better to be hated for who you are, then loved for who you are not. Trying to act and be something other than you is self-defeating, and all you will do is end up resenting your partner. Find the person who thinks you are fabulous, where you are a virgin or have had more than your share of dancing partners.

All I can say my sisters, is that you are beautiful as you are-don't tie yourself in knots looking for the one-the "one" is the man who will love you for you, annoying faults and all.


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Dating Ideas: Romantic Date Ideas

A good or a bad date can make or break a relation. Therefore, one has to be careful while planning a date. Here are some ideas for a fun date, which will also be memorable.

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'First Impressions are the last impressions', 'The smaller path ensures the larger journey', etc. etc. Such phrases are thrown to new lovers or people at the verge of going into relationships a dime a dozen. Other than phrases, dating tips are also given about by well-meaning friends and family members.

The meaning of dates change as, when and if the relation grows and moves ahead. Therefore, there are different dating tips for people going on a date, depending on the depth of their relationship.

One can also have a talk over coffee and snacks. First dates are an excellent opportunity to know more about the person and also as a chance to tell more about oneself. Therefore, activities like catching a movie or an opera should be avoided on a first date. A first date can have a movie or opera on the menu if a dinner or lunch is already on the cards. However, drive-in are a different cup of tea altogether. While movies in theater do not allow a person to speak or share ideas, a drive in movie theater is a different experience altogether.

Lunch and dinners are time tested and honored date ideas. If you are worrying about the non availability of privacy to talk, go for a candle lit dinner. A candle lit dinner will immediately accuse anyone looking towards you of invasion of privacy. A candle lit dinner will also give you a chance to talk to each other and therefore know more about each other.

Lunch and dinner dates are the best to share likes, dislikes and ideas. In this way, future activities can be decided upon. For example, if a common liking to rock music is found, the next date can always be attending a rock concert.

Other than knowing each other well, dates can also be a good way of letting one's hair down. Therefore, one good date can take place at the nearby video arcade or at outdoor games and activities like bowling, jogging, or over a game of pool. Humor is the best way to start and end the day. Therefore, if your date has a comedy club venue on the cards, it won't be no laughing matter.

Traveling around for a day is also a great date idea. To add some excitement to the date, you can travel by public transport like the bus, train or the cab all through the day. In this way, you can cover a large area of interest in one day, like the mall, the zoo, the park and other nearby picnic spots.

Maybe the most fun and creative date idea is the beach.The beach is an excellent venue for a date.One can spend the whole day on a beach swimming, listening to music and sunbathing. Swimming also creates a huge appetite, so be sure to have a considerable amount of food at hand. While the beach is a fun-filled venue during the day, it has its own life during the night. A silent walk on the beach during the night is a definite good date idea.

Spending time with kids is one of the best ways for a person to interact with others. Therefore, one good idea of a date is going to the nearby park and playing with the kids or even your neighborhood children. You can also play various children games with them, which will definitely be one memorable date.

If you are of a creative bent of mind, there are various creative dating ideas. Some of the creative, yet fun activities you can have on a date are painting, writing, pottery and other group activities. Planning a picnic in a place that offers some calm and peace is also a good date idea. Picnics are also a great way to cut down on expenses while on a date.

By Roy D'Silva

Why You Should Chat With Girls Regularly?

If you are a man who loves fun, you must have realized that to chat with girls is the ultimate kind of fun. It is so interesting to have women following you all the time. When you make it a habit to chat with girls you will have established a sure avenue to getting the women you want. It is one thing to spot a beautiful and attractive woman and it is another one to approach her and get her to date you. Many men fail when it comes to approaching the kind of girls they want. Due to this common fear among guys, women get mesmerized by men who walk up to them and pick up a conversation with a lot of confidence. This kind of a man who is not intimidated by a a woman's profession, beauty or intelligence is every woman's number one fantasy.

If you are a man who chat with girls, you do not have to be macho or drop dead handsome. All you have to be is emotionally stable. A person who is an emotional basket has very little to achieve when it comes to women. If you hope for dating success, build up your self-confidence and self-esteem and all the other things shall come following you. A secret worth leaking out is, the way to a woman's heart is through attention. If you pay attention to a girl they will always reciprocate. It is through chatting with many girls that you will identify your true love and your perfect match. You will also gain experience with women a trait many guys lack.

The advantage of knowing women is that you are able to seduce a particular girl you want without fail. If you want to learn the art of seduction thoroughly, practice to chat with girls. It shall surely be well with you. You will date the girls you want and marry the one you want and still remain friends with many of them. One thing for sure is, a woman develops more attachment towards a guy than guy develops towards her. This means that even after separation the woman will still be viewing the man as a friend. This is a benefit for many men because a woman you knew in your teenage years can be your friend even when you are old and grey. Many women value friendship and will always be there to chip in incase you have a problem. You might be married with kids but if you maintain the friendship, it helps a lot towards maintaining your family.

Nobody was born knowing how to be a girls' magnet but they have achieved the mastery with time. There are fewer men in the world today and yet there are some who have problems with having women in their lives. It is a no wonder that women are running to the already acquired men while the single men are all lonely. This is because the single men lack ambition and confidence. A woman does not want another woman in her life so you have to behave like a man that she is not. You have to convince her that you can offer security and love. If you make a habit to chat with girls you will learn what they require of man and become a master in seducing women and keeping them entertained.


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Ideas For A Fun Date

How to Have Fun Dating Without Emptying Your Wallet

Coming up with ideas for a fun date with your partner doesn’t need to end up costing a lot, even if you really want to spend some quality time with the person you love.

Many people would always come up with ideas for a fun date that borders on quantity instead of quality. In truth, spending some time with your partner does not necessarily have to entail expensive venues or costly merchandise.

It is very important that you come up with ideas for a fun date that will improve the relationship that you have with your partner, instead of filling your bellies ‘til you drop.

Spend Some Time In The Park

Considering that you want to be spending quality time with your significant other, one of the ideas for a fun date is to ask them out for a visit in the local park.

You might not realize it, but a park is a place where you can have loads of fun while enjoying the company of your partner. Ideas for a fun date in the park include:

• Eating an ice cream sundae while enjoying a conversation with your partner
• Playing Frisbee or any fun sports on the lush green carpet of grass
• Sitting under the cooling breeze of a tree while engaging in fun conversation.

Go On Tours

Going for a tour in one of the local museums is one of the great ideas for a fun date. Since you will only be spending for the entrance fee or none at all, you and your partner can enjoy a delightful afternoon admiring the beautiful pieces of history, while enjoying each other’s company.

Go Out For Walks

Spending quality time with your lover does not necessarily mean staying in one place doing nothing. Both of you can go out window shopping or taking a stroll.

If both of you are really up to it, you can tour around the city and visit interesting places where you can have fun.

Coming up with ideas for a fun date with your partner doesn’t need to end up costing a lot, even if you really want to spend some quality time with the person you love. In fact, a little creativity and some determination is all it takes to turn a simple date into a big success.

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