Dating Relationship: You Like Your Date But Hate Their Friends

You and your date usually have a great time when you go out together. Not so much when their friends tag along. So what can you do about it?

You and your dating partner have really gotten serious about each other. You have moved to the next level in so many areas. Now it is not like you are talking about marriage or engagement but it has come down to the fact that you want to date each other exclusively.

But there is one strong reservation holding you back. It has nothing to do with your dating partner. You realize they are not faultless and have no qualms about accepting them exactly as they are. No it is not their family either. You have met them on a few occasions and have hit it off quite nicely with mom, dad and siblings.

It's that other crew you have issues with; namely his crummy rotten friends. Try as you might you just cannot seem to warm up to them. Who are we kidding? You can't stand them.

You accept the fact that people are individuals but from your perspective every time you get together with his crew, there is a certain group mentality that takes over which is not to your liking.

To be fair they are not cliquish. As a matter of fact they go out of their way to try to include you in their activities. But you want no part of anything to do with these chowderheads.

So what are your options?

1. End the Relationship

That's right. You know how your date feels about his peeps. They are going to remain an integral part of his life and since you cannot stand them why go forward with the relationship?

2. Tell Your Date How You Feel

Let them know how strongly you feel about them and your feelings and issues with his friends. You have always been truthful with each other and that's as it should be.

They may take it to heart and since they like you so much decide that they will not subject you to going out with his posse. Your date will maintain his friendships but kindly leave you out of their get togethers. If you feel strongly about this person that may be a compromise you can accept.

Or they may take it to heart and decide that they want to end the relationship. No matter how they feel about you nobody is going to pick and choose their friends. These people have seen them through good times and bad. Besides your date has known them a lot longer than they have you. If it comes down to loyalty your date may decide that you lose.

3. Digging

Make a real effort to find out what it is your dating partner likes about his friends and try to see if you can get on that level. Or see if you can connect with some of them on a one to one basis. Sometimes when a bunch of people get together they can get caught up in group think but you might find each individual is nothing like you thought they were.

You and your date like what you have got going on. If you want to build on that then you are going to accept their friends or not. Your date has made it clear they are an important part of his or her life. For them how you get along with his friends may determine whether the two of you have a future together.