Love in Simple Words

Love in Simple Words
I was not knowing its definition. But when i went far from it, the first letter I learned was "L" and word was "Love".
Whatever I am writing - is based on my personal experience with life. It’s just like life has become a book or certification for me. Similar I found with Mr. M K Gandhi "The Father of Nation – India". He wrote about his experience with truth. I am inspired because writing is best way to express all your feelings that you can’t do elsewhere.

Till date – I am unmarried. I have just started my career as an associate consultant. I believe consultant acts as a confusing mechanism to a client. Provide options not a decision. Well I am straightforward and honest. I have doubt to what extend and how long will I continue with all falsehood of business. Anyway this is expression time.

My elder sister is a center of my life. I never find absence of love, friendship or guardian till I am with my sister. Once I was far – the first letter I learned was "L" and word was "Love". Even you start loving your age girl in your college days. It is becoming fashion! Get a bike – girl friend is free. Cost is only petrol. You be at Canteen, no class, all types of festivals and days in campus.

Sometime I was worried about my common man inside. I never did in my graduation. I had given lift only to one girl who was my enemy but by default she was a member of my industrial project study.

Well I have not so many words to express my love and friendship. You generally express what you have rather you missed. Right?

First of all I dislike thinking about love as any physical act. What we call romanticism. Romeo and Juliet. – A Great Love Story. Well it was. But it is our style to misunderstand everything. (I may also do same thing!) But Thomas Moore says, "Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames." I 100 % agree with the statement.

At this moment – I get an another tragedy. Few of my friends were really in deep love. I don’t know its meaning please! Graduation was over. Those who were unable to create their future include them too. There is a French proverb: -" Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass." It is ok to love someone else if you know how to love yourself first! Understand love first. Love is not a girl for a friend and vice versa. It is not a feeling. It is not an attraction. Definitely love is not a time pass at all.

There is an edge in our region: "Never wait for bus, train and a girl. If you missed one, another will come." But Gentleman " What are you doing at all?" You have to catch one.

It is really tough to define love for one. We all have different meanings of love. It depends on psychology of different minds. For any Road Romeo – seating on cross roads and looking passionately thinking all nightmare dreams is love. For any highly knowledgeable studying at college impressing classmates and taking city round just like a guide is a love. For any typical clerk marrying a caste girl and seating on seashore – planning future having number of children is true love. So many examples!

On the same situation Leo Tolstoy says "If so many men, so many minds, certainly so many hearts, so many kinds of love."

Well let me express few words on my experience. My love is always based on expectation of true friendship. For most of people family love may be messy, clinging, and of an annoying and repetitive pattern. But it is not of my case. I find true meaning of love when I put my first step far from my sister.

You know - Sisters touch your heart in ways no other could. Sisters share... their hopes, their fears, their love, everything they have. Real friendship springs from their special bonds.

My weakness is I easily fall in love. And probably I love to write on love although I have been a poor unsuccessful story. But I am one of the luckiest fellows who have got love since birth in advance.

I always look a person like my sister in a girl whom I love. Sorry I am attaching love with girl. Love has no physical entity. Still let’s take a girl, my age girl. 2-3 years above and down difference is ok. Out of my life’s six choices most of where "salwar – kamiz" ( an Indian dress material) just like my sister. They were bold enough to talk at the same time able to understand situation. In short similar to my sister.

What does it mean? We love people on the basis of some attributes. Even you check out with your experience. Most of us will agree with me finding same attributes or characteristics in a person whom we loved.

I don’t know what is Love? I don’t know what is Friendship? I don’t know anything? I just want a person who can understand my feelings my nature my problems and me. If I want to meet her or if I want to talk to her, I don’t need a reason. Why do I insist to get my love that can marry me because I will not need a permission of her husband if I want to talk to her.

We rarely understand but always feel it that love-friend-marriage have least degree of control on over physical body rather our mind. Your love is your strength. It is the basis of your existence.

"Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness that afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives." Says Bertrand Russell.

Your love may hurt you any day, as everything that comes has to go. Even my sister will get married one day. My friend whom I loved said she wished to be, as friends rather love. I am happy because she talks to me whenever I need. I have not done anything for her. There are many people who dislike me where I have few people who like me without any reason.

We always need to thank for giving such beautiful and kind relations in life. If you are in age of 12 to 28, you will feel it. Once you pass it, you will understand the reality that I don’t know yet.

Well if you are meeting to your true love today, convey my best wishes!

By Jay C

Ways to Say I Love You

Ways to Say I Love You
Learn a variety of ways to say I love you with both your words and your actions and build a stronger, healthier relationship.
The best ways to say I love You involve not only words, but actions as well. They don't cost anything and come straight from the heart. Yes the words are absolutely essential, but those words need to be reinforced with strong action. Your lover needs to see your love as well as hear it. If you say "I love you" and yet you never spend time together or show affection, then your words will be questioned. If your words say one thing and your actions say another, then doubts will arise.

The importance of this should not be underestimated or overlooked. It is essential to the quality and success of your relationship.

The expression of love should be consistent, spontaneous, free and bold. Let your lover know without a doubt, each and every day, that they are loved, desired, appreciated and special.

Here are a few ideas to help you on your way.

* Just say it. Say it out loud at least once a day.
* Give them a loving hug before they leave for work.
* Whisper it in your lover's ear as your grocery shopping.
* Take a walk in the moonlight holding hands.
* Write it on the mirror in the bathroom after a steamy shower.
* Put silk sheets on the bed.
* Tell them or write it on a card "I can't imagine my life without you."
* Learn how to say "I love you" in sign language.
* Put a picture of the two of you in a small frame and sit it on their desk.
* Replace the light bulbs in the bedroom with a soft sensuous color or their favorite color.
* Make an origami heart and leave it on their pillow.
* Wake your lover by whispering "I love you" in their ear.
* Bring your lover an "I love you" balloon.
* Send your lover secret love mail.
* Text them or call them in the middle of the day just to say "I love you."

Use these suggestions as a guide, but also learn your own creative ways to say I love you that reflect who you are and tend specific to your relationship. Treat your lover as if every day is Valentine's Day and your relationship will flourish in splendor.

Learn why expressing your love is important to your sex life.
By Cynthia Perkins

A Simple Formula to Keep Love and intimacy Alive

A Simple Formula to Keep Love and intimacy Alive
One of the most effective ways to keep love alive and deepen intimacy is to find ways to make your spouse or partner feel cared for and important. Couples often neglect this vital part of their relationship. This article describes simple ways to make appreciation a regular part of your marriage or relationship.
I bet if I asked you what you had for breakfast this morning, you'd have a concrete answer. (Even if the answer is "Black coffee" or "Didn't have time.")

But how about if I ask you to recall something arguably more important than a single morning meal? Let's see how you fare:

In what specific way did you make your partner feel important today? Hmmm?

You didn't think of it? Okay, one missed opportunity might not be a big deal. How did you make your significant other feel special yesterday? What's that? You were too busy. I totally understand--when the work day ends, you have to juggle the kids' itineraries: soccer, music lessons, math tutor. Not to mention putting food on the table. Gotcha.

So reach back into the recesses of your memory. What did you do to openly communicate how important your partner or spouse is to you last week? Last month?

I'm sure you get my point. But it's a point that needs stating anyway, since it applies to each and every one of us:

Your marriage or relationship needs continual nurturing in order to remain healthy.

Gardening is an apropos analogy: consistent care (watering, weeding and pruning) is needed for your garden to flourish. Can you imagine what your rose garden would look like after ignoring it for several weeks?

Formula for Love and Intimacy

One of the most effective ways to keep love and deepen intimacy is to find ways to make your spouse or partner feel cared for and important.

You and your partner + messages of appreciation = Lasting Love

Here's the best part: you can make your partner feel important in as little time as it takes to comb your hair.

Typically, when we talk to our mates, we tend to focus on the things that have to be done. ( "Are you picking Tobey up from karate, or am I?" "Did you mail the mortgage payment?") And in general, we also naturally tend to point out things that need fixing. ( "Waiter, I asked for the hollandaise on the side…my eggs are drowning in it.") But how often do we take the tiny amount of time to regularly articulate the things that work?

All to often, when things are running smoothly, we begin to neglect what works in our marriages or relationships. The cost of this neglect: you and your partner begin to feel unappreciated, emotional intimacy between you dwindles, sex becomes rote and mechanical. People often rationalize that it isn't so bad living in a chronic state of disconnection from their loved one (after all, most of the couples you know don't seem happy either). Some look to people outside of the relationship to make them feel special and appreciated. It shouldn't be this way. And it doesn't have to.

Change patterns of love-neglect

Keep this simple. In fact, the simpler the better. The goal is to be consistent and make it last. (And most people, no matter how busy, can wedge simple, easy tasks into their routines.) Start with small, loving and supportive statements. Here are few areas to focus on in your marriage or relationship:

Messages of appreciation:

Any sentiment that communicates thanks and gratitude fall into this category:

Make it a habit to say "Thank you" more often, even when you partner or spouse does the little things that s/he has done a million times before (poured you the first cup of morning coffee, fed the dog, took out the trash…even if you had to ask). Make sure your partner hears your thanks. (In other words, don't mutter it or say it under your breath. Be generous with your verbalized gratitude.)

Beyond "Thank you," try to add statements like:

"You're such a giving person";
"That was so thoughtful of you";
"That really helped me";
"I appreciate what you did for me";
"You're such a hard worker";
"You're the best thing that ever happened to me";
"That was kind of you."

As you grow more accustomed to pointing out the positive things, you'll naturally see places where these types of statements will fit. And of course your partner will be more motivated to continue to do whatever it was that earned your warm appreciation. So you shape a wonderfully reciprocal situation when you tell him/her you appreciate something.

Here are some other ideas for statements you can use in other situations:

Messages of love and interest:

"I love you"; "I missed you"; "I can't wait to see you"; "You make me so happy"; "I love spending time with you"; "I look forward to spending time with you"; "I'm thinking of you"; "I love that about you"; "How was your day?"; "I'd love to hear about it"; "How would you like to celebrate?"

Messages of support and commitment:

"We're in this together"; "What can I do to help?"; "Don't worry, I'll take care of it"; "That took a lot of courage"; "I'm so proud of you"; "You did a great job"; "I'm sending you good-luck vibes"; "I'm here for you"; "Tell me what you need."

Gestures of love and support :

Actions often speak louder than words. So in addition to regularly sending your partner verbal messages of appreciation to make him/her feel special, take the necessary action steps to make this happen in other ways. And remember: big gestures aren't necessary. A relationship benefits from regular, consistent, smaller gestures, not large-but-rare ones.

A kiss; a hug; holding hands; touching one another; a smile; a loving glance; a wink; a wave; a thumbs-up; a high-five; making him laugh or smile; making her coffee; bringing home his favorite food; a loving note, e-mail, text message, or voice message; a gift; a pleasant surprise; helping out more; being present; being playful; planning for fun…

These lists are by no means exhaustive. Start with them and practice with your partner. It's important to feel the truth behind each statement of love you send. If you parrot statements you truly don't believe, your insincerity will come through. Your goal is to touch your partner's heart, and to do that you have to be in tune with your own heart first.

Feeling loved and appreciated go hand-in-hand. Love and emotional intimacy are nurtured by messages and actions that make you and your partner feel special. While this tends to flow naturally when couples are first dating, years into the relationship it often takes reminders and consistent effort to stay on top of this vital part of your relationship.

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Dr. Richard Nicastro is a psychologist and relationship coach who is passionate about helping couples protect the sanctuary of their relationship. Rich and his wife Lucia founded LifeTalk Coaching, an internet-based coaching business that helps couples strengthen their relationships.
By Richard Nicastro