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Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Tips on Finding a Date

Finding a date can often be difficult. It certainly is not easy to find someone that shares the same interests as you and who you find attractive. Yet, finding a date is the critical first step to building a meaningful and lasting relationship. Even if you are not ready to settle down yet, it is important to find a date in order to simply have a companion for social occasions.

When looking for a date, it is important to first know where you should look. While it is entirely possible that might find someone to date just out of the blue, there are some places in which you are more likely to find a date. You should take into consideration your current circumstances and why you are interested in dating when identifying a place to look for a date. For example, if you only need to find a date in order to have a companion for a social event then you might be able to find a casual friend or a co-worker that would agree to be your date for the event. If you are interested in a more serious relationship, you will usually need to look beyond casual friends. The best places to look for possible dates are those locations that match your interests.

In the last few years dating websites and online dating services have become extremely popular among people looking for dates. These sites usually ask you to complete a personality profile regarding your interests, hobbies and preferences so that you can be matched with an individual who shares similar interests. There are even customized websites that can help you to find a date that will meet specialized interests or needs, such as sites that cater to senior citizens and interracial preferences.

When completing an online dating personality profile, it is best to be honest in order to receive the best results. If you are less than honest about your interests and hobbies or other details of your life then your matches will not likely mesh well with your own personality.

Another method for finding a date is actually one that is quite time honored. You might think about letting friends and family know that you are interested in meeting someone and ask them to set you up on a blind date. While blind dates have received somewhat of a bad reputation over the years, you just never know who you might meet with this method. There have been many satisfying relationships begun through this very technique.

Yet another idea would be to place a personal ad in a newspaper that would invite others with similar interests to contact you. This method is somewhat similar to using a dating site, but you should keep in mind that responses will not be filtered.

One method that is quite popular in many circles is speed dating. This method requires attending specialized events in which others who are interested in getting a date attend. Usually, you have a few moments to meet with each of the other people there and decide whether you might be interested in seeing more of that person. This method works well for some people because everyone knows that everyone who is in attendance at the event is interested in dating and it gives you the opportunity to meet a larger number of people within a relatively short period of time.

Of course, there are also other methods that have been used often throughout time, such as spending time at places where you might be likely to meet others. Some of the most popular places include clubs and bars, but there are also other options such as the gym, taking special classes in your area of interest, the supermarket, the home improvement store, etc.

Performing volunteer work can also place you in a situation where you will meet people with similar interests as well, if you enjoy helping others. The value of socializing in a variety of different areas should not be underestimated. Even taking a vacation can provide you with the opportunity to meet others. There are cruises that are specifically designed for singles who are interested in meeting other singles. There are really no limits regarding how creative you can be when you want to find a date. The main key is to just be yourself and explore the many opportunities that are available out there.

Regardless of which method you choose, it is important to be clear regarding your intentions when you are looking for a date. Are you just looking for a social companion or are you looking for a committed relationship that could develop into marriage? It is also important to be certain that you are forthright with interested individuals regarding your attitudes toward dating and long term relationships.

About the Author:

David Beart runs the Professor’s House, a site dedicated to helping families tackle everyday problems. If you are looking for dating advice, please visit our site.

By David Beart
Published: 9/19/2008

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