Tips for Singles Interested in Free Online Dating

Here is some advice when considering free online dating sites.

Free online dating is a cheap and efficient way of meeting singles in today's world. The average amount of money that is spent on one real life date is about fifty dollars. To some that is just plain crazy, that is why free online dating is so popular. There are numerous sites that do not charge for their dating services and some that do. Today we'll discuss what to look out for when searching for the perfect free dating site.

When searching for a free dating site you might come across the big name dating sites that say their services are free when in reality they're not. Double check if these sites are really free in their About Us section of their site, here you will usually get the nitty gritty. This way you will not waste your time in filling out a profile and then get charged for using a simple feature like email. When reading the About Us section do not be fooled by their clever slogans like paying for quality online dating will result in quality experiences. This is so beyond the truth it's insane, like mentioned before there are plenty of other completely free online dating sites that have the same features or even more than these wallet pinching thieves! The moral of this first rule is this: Why join a dating site that lies to you right in the beginning?

Look out for the number of ads placed within the dating site. If you click on a free online dating site and then you see your screen become flooded with flashing ads, Get Out! These dating sites usually have all sorts of viruses and bugs that could very well harm your computer. Another example of inappropriate ad placement is this, if you decide to join a free online dating site and you're required to click on an advertisement before moving on to the next step, Get Out! No dating site should make you their slave and make them get richer and richer by annoying you with ads to click. You should enjoy your free online dating experience, you shouldn't get hassled for it.

If you do decide to join a free online dating site make sure that your privacy is kept. Meaning this, usually when you fill out a dating profile you're asked for your email address. After you finish completing your profile make sure you can remove your email address from the dating site's mailing list. If you cannot delete it this is normally a bad sign. Dating sites that require your email address and will not let you delete it often email you fake messages stating that someone is interested in you or something along those lines just to keep you coming back. Sometimes these dating sites sell your email address to other sites that will send you even more ridiculous emails. Again, you of all people should enjoy free online dating.

So these are the first three things to look out for when considering free online dating. Don't be discouraged when reading these tips, there are plenty of trustworthy dating sites on the web. Just be smart and know what to watch out for when filling in your personal information.

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Hadley Freeman: Real Romantics Look to the Past

Anyone gone speed dating lately? I highly recommend you do, if only for the fascinating visual experience. Oh come now, no need to feel ashamed anymore.

Anyone gone speed dating lately? I highly recommend you do, if only for the fascinating visual experience. Oh come now, no need to feel ashamed anymore. According to a report by Telecom Express, one in five single Britons now uses dating services and they pay out over £43m a year in the hope that a stranger or machine can help them find their happily ever afters.

Speed dating is rarely sold on this merit, but the events have a wonderfully elegant choreography. Everyone moves collectively in a clockwise direction every few minutes: suddenly those country house reels seen in television adaptations of Jane Austen don't seem so anachronistic. And this might explain their success.

In Austen's time such structured farragos were necessary because they provided an acceptable context in which men and women were allowed to do more than engage in parlour talk about Lady de Burgh's new garden arrangement. So it is, on the surface, puzzling to see people submit themselves to orchestrated manoeuvres in this era of "sex texting".

These days we can have a pretty good look around for ourselves at what's on offer. But maybe this social freedom has become a bit overwhelming. We prefer romance to be pursued within a reassuring structure in which someone else is in charge.

There are two, apparently contradictory, reasons why many people find the rise of dating services depressing. On the one hand, the thought of people being so desperate for a partner that they'll go to a town hall on a wet Wednesday evening and chat to 30 people for five minutes each seems pathetic. On the other, a mindset based on probably too many romantic comedies, cries out that true love cannot be forced.

Many theories have been posited as to why, in the 21st century, finding love is still such a fraught business. We are caught at an awkward time - after feminism's sexual liberation but before we have established new expectations about our romantic lives. We are no longer obliged to find a spouse before the age of 30. Plenty of us will have more than one long-term partner during our lives. And most of us understand that Richard Curtis's view of human relations is not necessarily a realistic one.

Social structures have shifted, and in the absence of knowing how to incorporate our search for love within this, we have harked back to older, more controlled, methods newly trussed up in modern coating.

Or maybe Pride and Prejudice's Mrs Bennett was right and many of us - still - just want a little guiding push.

© Guardian News & Media 2008
Published: 4/14/2004

Eight Quick Speed Dating Tips

Get into the swing of things right from the start. Keeping these speed dating tips in mind will make your first speed dating experience more relaxing and help you put your best foot forward.

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Tried the new speed dating craze? These speed dating tips will help you get into the swing of things right from the start. You may be hesitant to try speed dating because you think you can’t learn much in three to five minutes about someone, or because you feel uncomfortable trying to express yourself in such a short period of time. But if you go into speed dating with a positive attitude and the right perspective, you can have a great time and break the ice with some wonderful singles. Keeping these speed dating tips in mind will help:

Pay Attention to Your Appearance

The evening is designed to be fun and relaxed, but your first impression will inevitably be how you look. Women, dress in something you would wear on a great evening out with friends – attractive, fun and not too seductive. Men, don’t show up in jeans and a tee-shirt – take it up a notch. Remember, every single at the event will be meeting dozens of other men and women – looking great will make you stand out from the crowd.

Smile and Relax

The simplest speed dating tips to remember are sometimes the most important – like putting the person you’re talking to at ease. How do you do this? Smile and relax! An honest, open smile will help the people you meet more comfortable. Be aware of your own nervous habits, too. Don’t tap your fingers or feet constantly – others will key in on it as either nerves or boredom.

Watch Your Body Language

Slouching is no good; neither is crossing your arms across your chest. These will give the impression of being either (again!) bored or defensive. If you lean forward slightly, you’ll convey interest. Keep you hands free and on the table. Gesturing some during conversation is fine and can help you make a dynamic point, but don’t flail about.

Don’t Drink Too Much Alcohol

You want to be on your best behavior and completely focused. Alcohol will dull your wits and your attention, which is fatal in speed dating, when you’re trying to learn as much as you can quickly. There’s also the chance you’ll do or say something stupid – ouch! You don’t want to ruin your chances in four minutes or less.

Keep the Conversation Flowing

Ask open-ended questions when starting conversations; it will keep the conversation flowing. Asking, "where do you work?" doesn’t give the other person much to work with. Asking, "What’s your favorite childhood memory?" or "Who would you most like to meet in the world?" will naturally lead to discussions of why and comparing notes for the two of you.

Focus on the Other Person

This is probably one of the most important speed dating tips. Focus the conversation on learning more about the person you’re sitting across from than on advertising yourself. Everyone enjoys talking about things they’re passionate about. Find out what the person’s passion is, and ask questions that will draw them out.

Follow up Without Pressure

At the end of the evening or a few days later, you’ll receive contact information for people you expressed an interest in who felt the same way. Send a short, friendly email to let them know you enjoyed meeting them and thanking them. Don’t send a novel and don’t pester them if they don’t answer within a few hours or even the same day. The person may be genuinely interested, but very busy, so give them a few days to respond.

Have Fun!

Don’t make each speed date a test or challenge. Simply look at it as an opportunity to meet lots of interesting people and make some new friends. If you do these simple speed dating tips, you’ll find yourself enjoying the evening for its own sake. If a few dates come out of it, they will be a wonderful bonus.

Keeping these speed dating tips in mind will make your first speed dating experience more relaxing and help you put your best foot forward. Good luck and happy dating!

About the Author:

Kevin Urban is the publisher and editor of Dating-Site-Advisor.com, a handy resource on the best online dating web sites & matchmaking services. Find love online with free dating tips for men and reviews that include the best Asian dating services and local sites.

Copyright 2006 Dating-Site-Advisor.com

By Kevin Urban
Published: 7/1/2006

What is Speed Dating?

A fascinating way of meeting singles and bringing love into your life...

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Dating has been the oldest form of meeting singles. However, the ways did change with passage of time. In the beginning era of newspapers and magazines, people used to search other singles or they some time publish their own ads, showing willingness to meet someone. Once the telephone became popular as great mode of communication, phone dating took place.

Invention of Internet is, perhaps one of the greatest one in late twentieth century. Internet has connected people of any part of the world together. Now, online dating has over-taken all previous means of dating. Needless to say, you can find thousands, even millions of singles of same age, location, language who are equally eager to find mates.

Speed dating is nothing but the fastest way of meeting many available singles in person quickly in one time. In Speed Date event, singles get together at the reserved place such as restaurant, bar, hall and spend fixed time to spend for "speed dating" with someone before moving to meet the next.

Speed dating provided by online dating service is getting very popular among singles for many reasons. The great advantage of Speed Dating is it is fast, it is fun. By spending few minutes with someone you can know if you can get along with whom you are chatting. Speed dating provides lots of opportunity to meet various singles at one time, hence choice is tremendous. You can sit and chat with the person you like and find out if your chemistry matches or not. Meeting someone face to face makes lots of difference in your dating life. Speed dating reduces the chances of trials as all singles who come to attend Speed Date even have already decided to meet you.

Speed dating, in fact, is a great fun for daters. This is also useful for people having less or no time to meet singles otherwise. There is nothing better opportunity of meeting singles than attending such speed dating events. Even one meeting could bring the love in your life you are looking for so many years. Many online dating services occasionally arrange Speed Dating events for their members. It is a great opportunity for singles to become members and reap the benefit of attending Speed Dating, whenever it occurs.

You may visit at http:///www.datingservices-online.net to know more about dating.

Linda Crowford is associated with with online dating service and dating services online. She is an author for many successful and ebooks written on human relationship specially romance, dating, marriage and divorce.

By Linda Crowford
Published: 9/8/2006

Is Speed Dating for You?

More and more singles are giving Speed Dating a try. However, it's not for everyone. Especially for the shy types, it can be quite daunting indeed.

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Speed dating started up within the Jewish community in Los Angeles in the 1990s. It has become a popular way to screen dates quickly and safely. Typically, participants pay a set fee for the evening. They are introduced to several potential partners with each "date" lasting anywhere from three to eight minutes. At the end of the evening, participants let organizers know which dates they’d like to see again. If two people have selected each other, the organizers will provide them with contact information so they can get together and set up a more traditional date.

Members of speed dating say it removes the uncertainty from the dating situation. There is no guessing if the other person might be available or might be in the correct frame of mind to date. The very fact that the other person is at the speed dating event shows that he or she is single and avaliable. Speed dating makes it easy for singles to meet several eligible people in a short period of time. Traditional dates usually take up an entire evening, even if one person realizes in the first five minutes that the other person is not for them. At a speed dating event, the mismatched date takes up only a fraction of the evening.

Finally, speed dating definitely favors those who are attractive, warm, and outgoing and favors attractive participants with outgoing personalities. The person who is not especially attractive, or who is shy and takes a little while to "warm up" will usually not get a fair shake at speed dating events. These people are better suited for other types of dating that allow time to get acquainted before a final decision about future dates is reached.

Also, speed dating relies heavily on first impressions, and as we all know, may be inaccurate. The eager-go-getter from the five minute date may turn into a male slug after a few weeks of dating, and the dream girl of the five minute date may easily turn into the shrew of the five hour date a week later. Speed daters should always remember "Let the buyer beware."

Kerry Ng is a successful Webmaster and publisher of The Dating Blog. For more helpful information about Dating visit datinginfoblog.com

By Kerry Ng Published: 7/26/2007

Innovative Dating Ideas for Expressing Your Love!

An ideal date is that which gives you an idea about some innovative and artistic reflection. Usually this happens when the couple that is dating does not consider themselves to be friends first. Friendship is important for any romance, and fun is important to all friendship.

When you are ready to ask your beloved one out on a date, the very question comes in your mind, "What are we going to do on our date?" or "Where shall we spend the evening tighter?"

This question can be particularly hard on the first date because you are trying to make a good impression and you may or may not know your partner’s likes and dislike.

Some people take dating too seriously. Usually this happens when the couple that is dating does not consider themselves to be friends first. Friendship is important for any romance, and fun is important to all friendship. So, remember if your date is going downhill because of lack of a romantic atmosphere your thought should be there, maybe it is time for you to reconsider the purpose of the date and try to excite it up with some fun first.

I think watching the sunset is a very romantic dating idea. The evening sky changes its color as the sun sinks below the horizon. Creating or presenting an atmosphere that's conducive to intimacy is the key. An ideal date is that in which give you an idea about some innovative and artistic reflection.

Some inexpensive ideas for you
Just imagine for a moment, you are going out with a guy/girl having movie tickets in your hand and planned for a candle-light dinner and a long drive exactly like every other boring people always do. But if you need a great dating idea, a time full of excitement, thrill, memories and sparks, how would you make your dreams come true?

Going out for dinner and a movie is definitely one of the most popular dating couples experience! However, it is also one of the very most awful - especially for those teenagers’ couples who are early in the dating period. You can make a picnic date ideas and tips on making dinner date the most creative and romantic conceivable - without spending a lot of money or time in preparation.

I always tried to extend the imagination and do something interesting, creative, exceptional, unique and different. I constantly scour books, magazines for new and interesting dating ideas, and finally it was this year that I decided it was time to put all of these dating ideas into a book so that everyone could have access to the best dating ideas.

Imagine if you had a way to virtually guarantee that you'd get another date anytime you wanted - with a hot, good-looking girl or a cool handsome guy? Now you can do that just with the Unique and Creative Dating Ideas. These dating ideas are the very best at really setting the first impression. Go on with one of these dating ideas for a first date, and your chances for a second date will just improve appreciably!

Your dating ideas will be so impressive to your dates that they will positively tell all their friends how romantic and innovative you are.

By Indrani Bhattacherjee
Published: 9/18/2008

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Advice Dating: 3 Ways to Deal with a Rotten Date after It's Over

At least one time in your life (if you have not experienced it already) you are going to have a rotten date. The question is how do you deal with it after the date is over?
In the movie Groundhog Day, Bill Murray finds himself reliving the same day over and over again until he basically gets things right, including his dating relationship. Living the same date over and over again can either be a blessing or a curse. In real life however you do not get a second chance to make a first impression. This means you are going to have at least one rotten date in your life (if you have not experienced it already) and there is no going back to correct it.

It can be a lot of things that contribute to a bad date which are not in your control. Rotten weather, a restaurant with less than stellar service or some other external circumstance that neither of you could have predicted. Hopefully you and your date will have a sense of humor about such misfortunes and allow it to draw the two of you closer together.

And then there is the obvious. For whatever reason, it is not working between you and your date. It could be a personality clash, lack of conversation to the point of uncomfortable silence or a number of other things. You may not want to write the other person off fully but for now this date is done.

So how can you deal with a rotten date after all is said and done

1. You Are Forgiven

There is a tendency for people to beat themselves up terribly when a date goes bad. They keep asking themselves the same question; what do I do wrong? It is okay to critique yourself to see if there was something you could have said or done differently to make the date go smoother, but if you are using that question to punish yourself then stop right there. Nobody is perfect and beating yourself up from the time your bad date ended to the time of your next date is a good form of self sabotage.

Keep in mind it takes two to tango so unless you were blatantly rude and obnoxious, it is okay to give some of that blame to the other person. You do not have to call them up and start critiquing them either. Just accept the fact that what is done is done and move on.

2. The Friendly Shoulder

It is not good to keep things bottled up inside of you. The best thing to do sometimes after a bad date is to talk it over with a good friend or a close relative. They may be able to offer objective criticism and advice; or they may understand that the only thing you need right now is someone who is willing to listen. If they are willing to give you the friendly shoulder to vent, cry or laugh on then by all means take it.

3. Get Going

You can avoid a lot of self pity by forcing yourself to get involved with other activities. Exercise, go out with friends to a movie or a restaurant (if your bad date happened in a certain restaurant, try to go back to that place with your friends to show there is no lingering stigma) or plan a special occasion for yourself. Getting active is a great way to truly put the bad date experience behind you.

Things happen in life and a rotten date is one of them. The key is to not beat yourself up over it. Just know that it is okay to forgive you and the other person, find a friendly shoulder and by all means get going with activity. This way you can go a long way to guaranteeing your next date will be a good one.

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By Daryl Campbell
Published: 10/17/2007

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Should Men Always Bear The Bill Burden On Dates?

One of the touchiest dating issues today has to do with money. Who pays - the man or the woman, and when? Read on to find out...

Once you're into a relationship, you would have worked out what is best for you as a couple, but in the meantime, it's tough to know what's expected of you. Typically, men today are put into a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. Some women are insulted if men always insist on paying. On the other hand, if men don't offer to pay instantly, some women will think that they're just being cheap or ungentlemanly.

There are a couple of general indicators determining which of these three options is taking place. Once you've learned them, you'll be prepared to handle any tricky dating scenario. Take a look and sort out your confusion.

WHEN SHOULD THE MAN PAY

On first dates: First impressions are important. On first dates, it will be the best bet if the man makes the first move when the bill comes. This goes not just for the very first date, but throughout the early stages of the relationship. Paying for things is not just the gentlemanly thing to do, it also indicates that you are responsible, steady and well-established. The girl will be impressed.

If you asked her out: A good general rule when it comes to these situations is to ask yourself, "Who asked who out?" If it was the guy who instigated the date, then he will be expected to pay. In fact, it's good for the man to be prepared to pay, regardless of whether the girl asked him out or not because girls always like it if the guy foots the bill.

On special occasions: For special events, such as an anniversary, birthday, holiday dinners, the man should offer to pay. It makes them appear gracious and classy. Guys should remember not to make a big show of their generosity by letting the girl know how much a meal cost.

WHEN SHOULD THE WOMAN PAY

If she asked you out: Once again, the guy should be ready to pay even if she asked him out. However, in this situation, it's more likely that she will cover both of you, and why not? The date was her idea. Unfortunately, some men still have a problem with letting women pay, but there is no reason to feel insecure if this happens occasionally.

On your birthday: Obviously, this is the one occasion when she should cover her date and he should accept gifts or treats on his special day. She should be more than happy to pay.

If she's adamant about it: If, for whatever reason, she absolutely insists on paying, the simple solution is to just let her. Weigh the cost of angering her versus the slight embarrassment of her whipping out her plastic for both of you in a fancy restaurant.

GO DUTCH

If you're a steady couple: Once you've reached the stage where you're splitting all your bills, you've likely fallen into the steady couple category. At this stage, there is no longer any reason why only the guy should pay for everything, especially if both of you have similar incomes.

On joint purchases: If you're living together or going on a vacation, split all the bills for items or services that you'll both be using. If you're travelling a long distance in her car, pay half the gas money. The opposite situation, if she doesn't immediately offer, there is nothing wrong with suggesting that she should contribute. You can't go wrong if you remember to let her take the lead, and respond accordingly, or be prepared to pay the whole bill.

So enjoy yourselves without worrying about expenses.

Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of http://www.datersmanual.com where he provides relationship advice for women and dating tips for men to help in building healthy and successful relationships. Also, visit his website http://www.loversmanual.com for healthy sex education and learn the modern sex techniques and tips to create more passion and intimacy into your love life and relationships.

By Michael Douglas
Published: 4/28/2007

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How to Make a Lasting Impression on Her

Know how to make a lasting impression on her and achieve dating success. Get the relationship you've always wanted with the girl of your dreams.

You saw the girl of your dreams and in your mind and heart you want to give it a shot to meet her.This could make or break you and you need to do the right things to make a lasting impression on her. They say that you only have one chance to make a good impression. Her are some tips for you.

Relax and be yourself. It maybe nerve wracking to finally meet and talk with the girl of your dreams for the first time but try to control your anxiety. It maybe flattering for her to see you a little bit nervous but do not let your nervousness control you. To make a lasting impression on her, just be yourself, relax and enjoy the moment with her.

Look at your best. This is a very basic requirement to make a lasting impression on her. You are just in the getting to know each other stage and you may get judged by the way you look. Look at your best, nice hair cut, good hygiene, choose clothing that match your personality and carry yourself well. Outside appearance counts if you want to make a lasting impression.

Look her in the eye. This is a very powerful way to connect and make a lasting impression on her. Some women admitted that they go out with a guy because he kept an eye contact with them. When you finally meet her, keep an eye contact while she is talking to show that you are interested not only with the words she is saying but because you are interested with her.

Make her laugh. When the situation gets awkward or you do not know what to say or do, simply break the ice by throwing a nice joke and make her laugh. Most women are worrier and they love to be with guys who have sense of humor. You will definitely make a lasting impression on her if you can make her laugh and forget her worries while she is with you.

Be a gentleman and treat her well. In this modern dating world, sometimes men forget about chivalry. It maybe dead for some men, but proves that you are different. Treating her well will always make a lasting impression on her. Open doors for her and treat her like a princess and she will never forget you.

Do you want to learn the techniques to make women compelled to see you again? Learn the secrets of attraction and seduction visit How To Be Irresistible To Women.

To know more about love and dating visit All About Relationships.

Gerry Restrivera writes informative articles on various subjects including How to Make a Lasting Impression on Her. You are allowed to publish this article in its entirety provided that author's name, bio and website links must remain intact and included with every reproduction.

By Gerry Restrivera
Published: 7/23/2008

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Eliminate Your Dating Insecurities Tips

Why it is so important to eliminate your dating insecurities in order to succeed.

Eliminating the insecurities that many people have is to understand the minds of women.

Men find that women are not actually that different and this helps them to become more confident. However this is only after reading so much of the "mysteries" of women etc which is awfully confusing. Well I hope to dispel such a theory and instill a hope and confidence into the minds of men. You see we grow up with genders much apart and see each other as different and there is a stigmatism attached to the genders.

One of the biggest troubles that men have with women is that they are actually unable to communicate properly and instead come across as the silent type or insecure. However this is not actually how they are at all and this communication barrier that exists between the genders is the one barrier that if you cross women will be at your finger tips. You will have noticed that the guys who are truly good at dating are defiantly able to communicate with women very well. They have jumped the barrier ling ago.

Are you still on the other side?
Viewing women in a different way is the biggest step to overcoming this barrier that has been holding you back. If you could only dispel this feeling whenever you are near a beautiful women you could really see the potential that is inside you. This feeling I believe comes from a young age, you may not have been subjected or forced to talk to girls that much and hence now feel like they are different in some way? There may be other uncovered reasons why and you may have to do some searching and really find out where the insecurities lie.

One things for sure though. There is a sure fire method of eliminating this fear an jumping over that barrier that is still holding you back. Holding you back in probably many other areas of your life too?
This method works on every other fear to and you may have heard of it. Just one word...

EXPOSURE. It is hard to fathom that this is all you need but managed correctly this should be all you need to overcome any fear. Try and go up to a girl you feel comfortable around even your sister if you have to and just talk to them. Ask them every question about women you have (well not every question) ,this should begin to get your confidence up and you should soon be able to talk to really beautiful women confidently. Don’t rush the process of exposure and gradually work up in incremental steps of what you feel comfortable with.

And remember that even the best get nervous at times, It is natural to get a little nervous so don’t beat yourself up about it.

Good luck with all your dating endeavors from the PullingLadies Dating team.

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By Stergis Mcormick
Published: 8/1/2008

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Tips on Finding a Date

Finding a date can often be difficult. It certainly is not easy to find someone that shares the same interests as you and who you find attractive. Yet, finding a date is the critical first step to building a meaningful and lasting relationship. Even if you are not ready to settle down yet, it is important to find a date in order to simply have a companion for social occasions.

When looking for a date, it is important to first know where you should look. While it is entirely possible that might find someone to date just out of the blue, there are some places in which you are more likely to find a date. You should take into consideration your current circumstances and why you are interested in dating when identifying a place to look for a date. For example, if you only need to find a date in order to have a companion for a social event then you might be able to find a casual friend or a co-worker that would agree to be your date for the event. If you are interested in a more serious relationship, you will usually need to look beyond casual friends. The best places to look for possible dates are those locations that match your interests.

In the last few years dating websites and online dating services have become extremely popular among people looking for dates. These sites usually ask you to complete a personality profile regarding your interests, hobbies and preferences so that you can be matched with an individual who shares similar interests. There are even customized websites that can help you to find a date that will meet specialized interests or needs, such as sites that cater to senior citizens and interracial preferences.

When completing an online dating personality profile, it is best to be honest in order to receive the best results. If you are less than honest about your interests and hobbies or other details of your life then your matches will not likely mesh well with your own personality.

Another method for finding a date is actually one that is quite time honored. You might think about letting friends and family know that you are interested in meeting someone and ask them to set you up on a blind date. While blind dates have received somewhat of a bad reputation over the years, you just never know who you might meet with this method. There have been many satisfying relationships begun through this very technique.

Yet another idea would be to place a personal ad in a newspaper that would invite others with similar interests to contact you. This method is somewhat similar to using a dating site, but you should keep in mind that responses will not be filtered.

One method that is quite popular in many circles is speed dating. This method requires attending specialized events in which others who are interested in getting a date attend. Usually, you have a few moments to meet with each of the other people there and decide whether you might be interested in seeing more of that person. This method works well for some people because everyone knows that everyone who is in attendance at the event is interested in dating and it gives you the opportunity to meet a larger number of people within a relatively short period of time.

Of course, there are also other methods that have been used often throughout time, such as spending time at places where you might be likely to meet others. Some of the most popular places include clubs and bars, but there are also other options such as the gym, taking special classes in your area of interest, the supermarket, the home improvement store, etc.

Performing volunteer work can also place you in a situation where you will meet people with similar interests as well, if you enjoy helping others. The value of socializing in a variety of different areas should not be underestimated. Even taking a vacation can provide you with the opportunity to meet others. There are cruises that are specifically designed for singles who are interested in meeting other singles. There are really no limits regarding how creative you can be when you want to find a date. The main key is to just be yourself and explore the many opportunities that are available out there.

Regardless of which method you choose, it is important to be clear regarding your intentions when you are looking for a date. Are you just looking for a social companion or are you looking for a committed relationship that could develop into marriage? It is also important to be certain that you are forthright with interested individuals regarding your attitudes toward dating and long term relationships.

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By David Beart
Published: 9/19/2008

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Effective Dating Tips for Women

There are many effective dating tips for women today. In today’s world of courtship, it is important to know and understand the field that you are playing in. It is equally important to know exactly how to make your play so that you can optimize your performance in this area of your life. By following these simple dating tips for women, you can make this experience a fulfilling and positive one. Once you engage in fulfilling and positive dating experiences, you will become more productive in this area. The following tips will help you on your way to discovering that relationship that you are seeking through dating.

Be Yourself

The first and most important dating tip for women in my personal opinion is ensuring that you are true to yourself, and that you simply be yourself when dating. When you begin to date, you should just focus on who you truly are and not who you think your date wants you to be. If you "role play" that of a person other than you are, it is quite likely that it will eventually catch up to you, and result in difficulties in any relationships that you want to pursue with the person you are going out with.

Don't Keep Your Date Waiting

Being on time is of the utmost importance. You should always be considerate of the meeting times, telephone calls, and other situations and events that you have committed to. If you fail to uphold the promises that you make, and you invade upon the rights of time on your date, this will make a long lasting impression that can be detrimental to the relationship that you share for a long time.

Have a Positive Attitude

The next dating tip for women that I have is that you should remain positive at all times. You should avoid complaining too much, seeing the negative in things, and allowing all this negativity to show. While it is important that you are yourself, and should remain true to that, being negative is never a way to go when it comes to socialization.

What Not to Talk About

Conversation is an essential component when it comes to dating tips for women. Let’s face it; most of us really enjoy talking. However, when you are in the process of dating someone, it is important to avoid certain types of discussions. These topics may include health, previous relationships, money, and similar areas. It may also be in the area of expressing future expectations of the relationship, such as getting married.

Accept Compliments

While dating, you may find that the individual you have chosen to socialize with issues compliments to you. It is important that you resist the urge to "talk down" the compliment, or refuse to accept it. If you are issued a compliment, avoid all the emotional negative self talk and just accept it. You should thank your date by issuing you a compliment. If you accept compliments, it shows that you have an air of self confidence. You will come to find that many men really enjoy dating someone who is self-confident.

Disagreeing is OK

You will find that there will likely come a time when you must share your opinions on certain subjects. It is important to ensure that you always express yourself honestly, and allow the other person to know where you stand on various subjects. Do not feel that you will turn on a male that you are dating simply because of the fact that you agree with him. Men want to date women who are strong and completely confident in whom they are as individuals. If nothing else, being honest about how you feel on certain topics may actually push him to be more attracted to you!

Ask Questions

When it comes to dating tips for women, it is important that you understand the basic element of communication. That is that most people enjoy talking about themselves and what has and is occurring in their life. If you are looking to make a sound impression, and want to allow that person to get closer to you, ask questions that allow them to take about themselves.

Conclusion

There are many different online dating tips for women. The ones here are the basis for all other dating tips. If you want to make a long-lasting impression, and potentially court the individual that you are with in hopes of developing a serious relationship, it is important to ensure that you follow the techniques listed here. It is one of the best guides when it comes to dating tips for women.

About the Author: Kevin Urban is the editor at dating-site - Advisor.com, the web's guide to the best online dating sites. He offers detailed dating site reviews and gives relationship and dating advice for single women.

By Kevin Urban
Published: 9/20/2008

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Super Dates with Little Money

You imagine how nice it can be to go to a lovely spot, well, you need to know that women are not so impressed by location as they are by the atmosphere you create. So here are some hints, simple and financially acceptable.

Invitation to have a cup of coffee

It's easy to do. You know, people in the movies invite themselves to have a cup of coffee, so you can do it too. Why wouldn't your date be a success because in the movies such dates are always successful? Atmosphere is crucial. Select a nice place and make her feel special.

A bike ride

Let's get serious; do you think that she has experienced such a date? You can be original, go to a park. You can even use roller skates instead of bikes. Think that you can enjoy the fresh air and feel great.

A visit to the museum

If you want to impress her, this is your chance. Only an intellectual would select such a place. Of course you must know lots of things about the exhibits. It is your moment of glory to show her how well informed you are.

At a picnic

You prepare a basket with sandwiches, fruit, a champagne bottle, a blanket and you drive to a quiet place - peace and quiet and only the two of you. If you think she is positive about it you can also try strawberries and cream.

At a party

If one of your fiends is having a party, invite her to join you. You will spend quality time together dancing and talking…for free. It is a chance to show her you are a good dancer and a communicative person.

Dinner at home

Invite her to your place and prepare dinner. Show that men are the greatest cooks. Prepare good food, offer dessert, and a cocktail on the house.

Good luck to you!

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By Marius Gherghinescu
Published: 9/24/2008

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Relationship Dating: What Are They Doing Now?

Dating someone you really hit it off with is incredible experience. Everyday things get better and the thrill of the relationship makes you want more of it. So how can wanting more of it be such a bad thing?

You and your date just cannot get enough of being together. When you both are at work you are constantly emailing each other or doing the instant messaging thing. When you go on your break you start texting each other. Then comes lunch time. Luckily you both work in the same proximity so you can get together. Yes the two of you always have a great time; you don't eat much but you still have a great time nonetheless.

Then it's back to work for more texting, messaging and emailing. Finally the work day is over and the two of you get together for more fun and excitement. But it doesn't stop there. After your date is over the two of you retreat back to your respective computers for more (you guessed it) messaging, texting and emailing. And tomorrow the routine starts all over again

It all looks and sounds so wonderful in the beginning days of the dating relationship but sometimes too much of a good thing within a short period of time can turn a relationship sour. No one plans to break up but the lack of breathing room has collapsed many a couple who vowed endless love to each other.

There are several reasons for this turnabout:

1. Information Overload

It's like eating your favorite food. In the beginning you cannot get enough of it but after awhile you eat so much that you get sick of it. Emailing, phoning, texting and all the rest may be cute during the beginning and even the middle periods of the dating relationship but too much on a constant basis is just asking for trouble.

2. Time

It has a way of rubbing the glow off any relationship. Not so much the love and respect which should hopefully always be there but the infatuation and rush of emotions seem to subside after awhile.

Some people may say all the more reason to front load the process since time has a tendency to strip away the magic. That's true to an extent but time can also give you the perception of things crowding in on you which creates undue stress. This can go for anything including your dating relationship.

3. Resentment

Your date thought it was so cute in the beginning. Not anymore. It's not that they have discussed it with you but their responses to your flood of communication are not as quick as they used to be. It could be that things have come up and they are busy taking care of business. Sometimes it's the other side. Your constant interruptions start them to thinking you are just checking up on them. In other words you are not doing anything but spying and maybe trying to control them. It's been known to happening.

There's no other way to get to know one another except by maintaining contact. But in this life there is unfortunately something called "too much of a good thing." As strongly as you feel about your dating partner the best thing you can do to make sure the relationship grows is to show some restraint and give the other person ample breathing room.

Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip – Warning: Relationships often shatter without these 4 things.

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By Daryl Campbell
Published: 11/4/2008

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Dating Relationship Tip: Don't Let Them Trash You

A little give and take in the dating relationship is okay but when it starts to get one sided then be on your guard.

It started with the subtle digs, disguised as jokes. You have a pretty good sense of humor so in the beginning you took it in stride. As a matter of fact you gave it right back to your dating partner. You figured a little verbal sparring laced with humor was okay. It showed that both of you could tale it and it kept you on your toes.

You cannot recall when it happened but somewhere along the line the digs at you stopped being so subtle; in fact they got a little stronger and a lot less humorous. You told your dating partner this more than once but they swore that you were wrong. They explained it away by saying the two of you were just getting more comfortable with each other.

Again you let it go. After all it doesn't happen with any particular regularity. Besides you always manage to hold your own and you really do like this person. No complaints about the times you two spend together. Truth to tell it looks like the both of you have gotten serious about each other.

But here it comes again. Not only is it intense but there is no humor at all. This time it is a scathing critique of your flaws and some of your mannerisms. To be sure it catches off guard. You have never acted that way towards them so where did this come from? When you confront them, they tell you to stop being so sensitive. Can't you take a little joke?

Only you know they were not joking and they know it too. Nobody who really cares about the person they are going out with would trash them. The chances are you may be going out with someone who is practiced in the art of verbal abuse.

They are not doing this exercise to see how much you can take or to gauge whether you would be a worthy adversary for future verbal sparring. The point is to see what makes you tick, force that emotional door open and take control of the relationship.

Be very cautious especially if they are so cavalier when it comes to your feelings or when you do confront them they get very defensive and try to turn the tables back on you.

A little give and take in the relationship is okay as long as both parties are okay with it and it is laced with caring, humor and affection. However if one person starts to become the constant initiator and aggressor then watch out. They are probably looking to tip the balance of the relationship overwhelmingly in their favor.

Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip - It's not love or caring or even just providing a candid evaluation. In essence, relentless criticism only serves one purpose.

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By Daryl Campbell
Published: 11/11/2008

Dating Relationship Tip: Don't Let Them Trash You

A little give and take in the dating relationship is okay but when it starts to get one sided then be on your guard.

It started with the subtle digs, disguised as jokes. You have a pretty good sense of humor so in the beginning you took it in stride. As a matter of fact you gave it right back to your dating partner. You figured a little verbal sparring laced with humor was okay. It showed that both of you could tale it and it kept you on your toes.

You cannot recall when it happened but somewhere along the line the digs at you stopped being so subtle; in fact they got a little stronger and a lot less humorous. You told your dating partner this more than once but they swore that you were wrong. They explained it away by saying the two of you were just getting more comfortable with each other.

Again you let it go. After all it doesn't happen with any particular regularity. Besides you always manage to hold your own and you really do like this person. No complaints about the times you two spend together. Truth to tell it looks like the both of you have gotten serious about each other.

But here it comes again. Not only is it intense but there is no humor at all. This time it is a scathing critique of your flaws and some of your mannerisms. To be sure it catches off guard. You have never acted that way towards them so where did this come from? When you confront them, they tell you to stop being so sensitive. Can't you take a little joke?

Only you know they were not joking and they know it too. Nobody who really cares about the person they are going out with would trash them. The chances are you may be going out with someone who is practiced in the art of verbal abuse.

They are not doing this exercise to see how much you can take or to gauge whether you would be a worthy adversary for future verbal sparring. The point is to see what makes you tick, force that emotional door open and take control of the relationship.

Be very cautious especially if they are so cavalier when it comes to your feelings or when you do confront them they get very defensive and try to turn the tables back on you.

A little give and take in the relationship is okay as long as both parties are okay with it and it is laced with caring, humor and affection. However if one person starts to become the constant initiator and aggressor then watch out. They are probably looking to tip the balance of the relationship overwhelmingly in their favor.

Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip - It's not love or caring or even just providing a candid evaluation. In essence, relentless criticism only serves one purpose.

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By Daryl Campbell
Published: 11/11/2008

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Finally Ready to Meet the One?

When you get divorced, how long should you wait before you begin to date again? Only your children should be considered in answering this question.

When you go through a divorce it feels like you are grieving a death and basically, that’s precisely what you are doing. A divorce is the death of a marriage. It takes time to "get through it" and get the grief processed. You need to grieve and go through the stages of grief. If you have been divorced awhile, you may be ready to start dating again. Before you start to take this important step, you need to do some evaluating.

First of all, you need to assess how long you have been divorced. Has it been a month, six months, a year? Everyone’s time frame for when it is appropriate for you to start dating will vary. The only people that you need to consider when making this decision are your children. I’m not saying that you need to ask their permission; they might not be accepting of the idea for a while. I’m just saying that it is your job to assess the situation. How have they been acting? Do they ask you about finding some one new? How old are they? Are they little kids who really don’t understand the situation fully, or are they older kids who really do know what is going on?

Second of all, you need to figure out your approach. If you do start dating, are you going to be open about it or keep it a secret from your children until you find some one that you want to be serious with? I have seen people take both of these paths. In my opinion, being open from the start is better. You may be opposed to this at first, but it really does ease them into the whole process. When a parent keeps it from them and all of a sudden is like "WHAM! This is my new boyfriend/girlfriend." It’s a lot for some children to handle all at once.

Third, you have to actually start dating! How is that going to happen? Are people already trying to fix you up? Do you have someone in mind already that you are interested in? Would you prefer to join some kind of dating service?

This should be an exciting time for you. You might not have been on a date in a long time, but it will all come rushing back. It’s good to get past the grief of your divorce, begin dating again and meet new people even if nothing develops romantically. You can never have too many friends to share time and conversation with.

By Len Stauffenger Published: 4/4/2008

5 Steps to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back!

5 simple strategies that can help you win back an ex-girlfriend.

Winning back an ex is a very difficult thing to do. It’s a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances increase dramatically. So follow these 5 steps and you will have a good shot at getting back together with them.

1. Don’t Ask to Get Back Together

If you have taken a break or she broke up with you, you should never ask to get back together. Why? Simple, because the answer will be NO!eYou’re only shot at getting them back is to do the right things that will make them ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.

But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get a girls attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.

So don’t ignore someone’s texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. So how’s the right way? You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show her that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.

2 Maintain Confidence And Composure

You can’t guilt someone back and you can’t make someone feel sorry enough to take you back. It’s ok to tell her that you are sad and upset that it didn’t work, but never tell her that you are devastated or that you are thinking of committing suicide or some junk like that. I know everyone’s first response when a girl hurts them is to tell her how she broke your heart and that you don’t think you will ever date again, and what a wreck you are without her. Why? When you feel like you have been wronged, you want retribution, which you will probably get but it will be in the form of an apology. Or you want to make them see that they made a mistake.. ha! Think about it, I’m sure they are thinking "Wow I can’t believe I left the guy who calls me crying everyday telling me how his life is ruined."

3 Do Something!

It’s not enough to just say that you are fine and that you are happy. If it’s not at least visibly true, she will never believe it. You have to go out, have fun, and be seen. Not only will this help take your mind off of her, it will validate all the things you have been saying to her.

If she sees, or even better, hears that you are out having fun, be ready because she WILL call you out on it... Don't let this shake you. This is a crucial step in getting her back, but only a step. If you back down and tell her that you are so devastated that she left you that you have to do something to take your mind off of her, it will only reaffirm her feelings about why she left you.

4 Don't Be Jealous

Listen carefully... SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it will probably be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow i know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you aren’t together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.

So how do you fight off the urge to fly off the handle and tell her what a whore she is and that you would never do something like that to her? You just don’t do it. If you don’t want to get her back, then by all means, freak out all you want. But if you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.

5 Remind Her Why She Fell For You In The First Place

The purpose of these suggestions is to get back what you once had. If you were in a serious relationship, then there was a time when she was attracted to you. For whatever reason, she left because she lost that attraction. Girls make decisions based on emotions (in this case attraction) not logic. Yes, I know there are exceptions to the rule. But they are just that…exceptions.

So in order to get her back you have to build that attraction again. This is very difficult to do once you’ve lost it, but it’s the only way you will get her back for good. You do it by going back to the way you were when you first met, and doing the things you did when you first met. Mainly, you have to look like a guy that is fun to be around, a guy that has other options, and a guy that she doesn’t know whether he likes her or not. You have to show her that your life is great without her and that your happiness doesn’t depend on her decisions. If you can put the attraction back into her, you stand a very high chance of getting her back. If she regains that attraction, she will be the one that comes back to you.

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By Lance Taylor
Published: 6/3/2008

How To Please A Woman and

Make Her Think About You All The Time

This article reveals how you can conquer the obstacles to the female heart and learn how to please a woman.

A man's nature is primal. It does not require any conscious thought from his end; but instead, he relies on the deep urges that seems to boil out from his inner being. In truth, a man's need is centered on his ego – to get what he wants and nothing else. This causes him to be clueless when it comes to knowing how to please a woman.

The female species, on the other hand, has always been an enigma to the common man. Even if they are equipped with a single brain, they project different personalities and mind set that often drives their male counterpart crazy. But in truth, this is practically the reason why they are irresistible to the opposite sex – the challenge that they give. Are you ready to conquer the obstacles to the female heart and learn how to please a woman?

Understanding Women

The only way to know how to please a woman is to know the different personalities that they show to the outside world.

Usually, these personalities often leave men dumbfounded as they switch from one mood to another in a blink of an eye. But truth to tell, understanding these mood swings is one way to know exactly what she wants you to do.

These mood swings happen for a reason, and when you know what's behind it, you can take steps in giving her what she wants to keep her happy.

Women like to talk. Whether they are in a good mood or bad, they usually voice out their emotions to their partners. Listening and being attentive while your woman is in one of these mood swings is a great way to determine what she really wants.

Be attentive and keep your emotions in check, even if their rants and raves are directed at you.

Showing Affection

If you really want to know how to please a woman and win her heart, you need to show her the affection she deserves. She might look intimidating on the outside, but she craves for loving affection within.

Note, however, that words and emotions are not enough to win a woman's heart; you need to back it up with action as you go along. For starters, you can pamper her by giving her a good massage when she comes home from work. Or prepare a romantic dinner for you and your woman to enjoy. And while you're at it, get some wine to help both of you relax as you adjourn to the living room for a quiet and romantic evening.

Knowing how to please a woman and understanding her desire to be loved are great ways to win her affection. She might be shocked at first by the sudden change in your personality; but keep up the good work until you see that lovely smile that often turns men's legs to jelly.

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By Michael Lee
Published: 6/6/2008

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Why Men are still dating WRONG

Pointers on common dating mistakes and how to correct them. Why men are inherently hardwired to me bad daters and ways to fix this.

This Article will cover some of the biggest flaw in dating women that men make. This article is based on the differences in thinking between the two genders. Men fail to see themselves through the eyes of a women hence continually find themselves making the same mistakes over and over. If this happens to be you, not to worry because there is so much information out there to help you on your way to dating success.

Men on dates are too goal orientated when it comes to dating women, which hinders there success.

Men approach the task of dating like they do most other things, as a challenge. Rather than letting the experience manifest itself naturally, men on dates can seem rushed and preoccupied.

Constantly trying to impress and come up with a new exiting thing to say comes across unnatural and forced. It doesn’t and shouldn’t have to be this way as dating should be a fun and interesting experience for both parties.

Remember this one thing if nothing else:
If you start to feel nervous and lost for words which are a common occurrence for many men on dates, remember that there is a good chance that she is thinking the same thing you are. If you’re nervous you’re probably making her feel nervous. If you feel like the date is going great then it probably is. Trust your instincts and be yourself and if you don’t impress her then its not meant to be.

There are many many fish in the sea and its all to common for a guy to get hooked on a girl for years even though she has moved on years ago.

Don’t put women on a pedestal because you think they are some beautiful magical creature. Women are wonderful to be around and lots of fun but remember that they really aren’t that different than you or I.

If you start treating them like they are god they wont respect you for it, this may seem counter intuitive but believe it or not women like to be treated bad once in awhile. I Am not saying for a second here not to pamper them-do not confuse me with a chauvinist.
You no how you sometimes see those average looking guys with the really hot chicks? You think to yourself what the hell… right? What is he doing that I’m not.

This one topic can make men go mad but all he is doing is coming across as the dominant male.

You have to have some confidence about you in order to attract a lady. Women want to feel that you are in control of the situation and can protect them.

This happens to be a very useful trait in women because it means even if your not the best looker you still have a chance to win her heart.

Remember all it really is that wins a woman’s heart in the end is the perception that you are comfortable and confident with yourself. This may manifest itself in many different ways but the underlying message is the same.

Hope you enjoyed my advice on the topic of Common dating mistakes.
Good luck with all your endeavors.

By Stergis Mcormick
Published: 7/12/2008

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Dating Advice

How should I dress up for my date? How safe is it to go on a blind date? Am I supposed pay the bill? Is it okay to have sex on the first date? Read on for some useful dating advice...

I don't understand the whole dating thing. I know right off the bat if I'm interested in someone, and I don't want them to waste their money on me and take me out to eat if I know I'm not interested in that person. ~ Britney Spears

Well, not everyone might be as good as Britney Spears when it comes to choosing the right guy…Dating is one of the best options for people to go out, spend time with each other and explore the possibility of a blossoming romance. However not every date can be a cakewalk and hence here is some dating advice that you could use while you continue your hunt for Mr. Right or Ms. Right…

Choose the Right Venue

While asking out someone for a date think of a venue that you are sure you will be comfortable with. In case you are expecting a little awkwardness and jitters on the first date think of fun venues that might help you break the ice. For example you can go bowling, fishing, or just catch a movie together. In case you already know the person and feel confident enough, go for a candlelight dinner, a walk on the beach, star gazing and so on. Always think of places that will be interesting and fun for both of you.

Do Not have Pre-conceived Ideas About Your Date

Do not have any predetermined ideas about the person you are about to date. If you have a common acquaintance who doesn’t think highly about your date, do not let this affect your point of view. Try and meet the person and see for yourself how the person is. Always go out on a date with a open mind, without expecting any specifics and there is a chance you’ll return with a smile on your face.

Be Comfortable, Be Yourself

It is often said that when you are on a date you should put your best foot forward to create the perfect first impression. Although that might actually help you while dating, the thing that will actually take a long way is being yourself! Do not pretend to be someone that you are not and allow the person to know you and like you for who you are. Dating is about exploring the possibility of compatibility and romance, so comfort is the first thing that you should look for. Do not over-dress and try getting into uncomfortable clothes to impress your date.

Don't Rush - Take Things Slow

Never rush into a relationship while on a date. Let things progress step by step. For example sleeping on the first date might not be a really great idea even if you are in the moment and feel you are getting carried away. Go out for three to four times or as many dates as you require to make sure you like the person. Once you are sure you like the person you can take the relationship to the next level.

Keep the Conversation Going

A good conversation always helps you know a person better. Think of random subjects to talk about but make sure the subject interests your date. Cracking a few jokes might be good idea to break the ice, but make sure your joke and the timing is appropriate. You don’t want to face the embarrassment of cracking a bad joke and getting the ‘That’s not even close to funny’ look from your date. There will be awkward silences and abrupt pauses, but make sure to keep the conversation going. Do not get embarrassed and confused if both of you suddenly seem to be out of topics to chat about. Try and ask your date open-ended questions to take the conversation ahead.

Do Not Lie - Be Honest About Yourself

Dating is about looking out for a perfect companion, and obviously you don’t want to start a relationship with lies. Never lie on a date – be it your work, your salary, your house location, your family background, or any other thing that might come up in a conversation. Be honest to your date. In case you are uncomfortable answering a particular question, say so but do not lie about it.

Do Not Believe in Clichés

This one is especially for the ladies. In an age where we fight about equality of men and women expecting him to get the bill is just plain stupid. The best way is to ‘go dutch’ (each one of you pays for what you have had) or else just split the bill equally. Especially when it is your first date, carry enough money or your credit card to be able to pay for yourself.

Practice Safe Dating

Do not use unreliable sources for dating. Blind dates set up via an unreliable dating bureau or a date planned with your online-friend might turn out to be a great one but be very sure about the reliability of a person in case of blind dates or internet-dates. People you met on the social networking website or in a chat room might not always turn out to be good, there are lots of dangerous people who are on the lookout for victims on the internet. Do not have any suspicious drinks or too much alcohol during the date so that you can remain alert and be in your senses throughout the date.

By Uttara Manohar
Published: 2/29/2008


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Dating Relationship: You Like Your Date But Hate Their Friends

You and your date usually have a great time when you go out together. Not so much when their friends tag along. So what can you do about it?

You and your dating partner have really gotten serious about each other. You have moved to the next level in so many areas. Now it is not like you are talking about marriage or engagement but it has come down to the fact that you want to date each other exclusively.

But there is one strong reservation holding you back. It has nothing to do with your dating partner. You realize they are not faultless and have no qualms about accepting them exactly as they are. No it is not their family either. You have met them on a few occasions and have hit it off quite nicely with mom, dad and siblings.

It's that other crew you have issues with; namely his crummy rotten friends. Try as you might you just cannot seem to warm up to them. Who are we kidding? You can't stand them.

You accept the fact that people are individuals but from your perspective every time you get together with his crew, there is a certain group mentality that takes over which is not to your liking.

To be fair they are not cliquish. As a matter of fact they go out of their way to try to include you in their activities. But you want no part of anything to do with these chowderheads.

So what are your options?

1. End the Relationship

That's right. You know how your date feels about his peeps. They are going to remain an integral part of his life and since you cannot stand them why go forward with the relationship?

2. Tell Your Date How You Feel

Let them know how strongly you feel about them and your feelings and issues with his friends. You have always been truthful with each other and that's as it should be.

They may take it to heart and since they like you so much decide that they will not subject you to going out with his posse. Your date will maintain his friendships but kindly leave you out of their get togethers. If you feel strongly about this person that may be a compromise you can accept.

Or they may take it to heart and decide that they want to end the relationship. No matter how they feel about you nobody is going to pick and choose their friends. These people have seen them through good times and bad. Besides your date has known them a lot longer than they have you. If it comes down to loyalty your date may decide that you lose.

3. Digging

Make a real effort to find out what it is your dating partner likes about his friends and try to see if you can get on that level. Or see if you can connect with some of them on a one to one basis. Sometimes when a bunch of people get together they can get caught up in group think but you might find each individual is nothing like you thought they were.

You and your date like what you have got going on. If you want to build on that then you are going to accept their friends or not. Your date has made it clear they are an important part of his or her life. For them how you get along with his friends may determine whether the two of you have a future together.

Relationship Dating: This Cannot Be Their Family

You checked your birth certificate and you are from planet earth. So is your date. Their family? You are not so sure.

Count your blessings that this date is finally over. No it has nothing to do with your date. As a matter of fact the two of you have been hitting it off pretty good. No it has not gotten to the marriage talk stage but you both feel you have a future together.

After tonight you are not so sure. This was the first time you met their family and in many way you wish it was the last time. Sure things started out okay. Mom, dad, brother and sister greeted you warmly and exchanged all the correct pleasantries. Unfortunately from that moment on it all went downhill.

As the evening wore on you came to several conclusions:

a. Dad is an obnoxious jerk

b. Junior is studying for his entrance exam into Moron University

c. Mother is the nosiest human being you have ever met in your life

d. The sister is suffering from a severe case of SRS commonly known as snide remark syndrome.

You periodically turn to your date during the course of the evening and swear to yourself that they could not possible be from this family. You can convince yourself that your date is a scientist here to do a case study. Of course it's not true but it did help you get though the evening.

Now you've got a situation on your hands. You feel strongly about your dating partner but the very thought of visiting that family again let alone having them as in laws makes you physically ill.

So what can you do about it?

1. Get Over It

You love your dating partner so you accept the fact that their family is an important part of their life. You grin and bear it while telling yourself that if the two you decide to get married it's not like they are going to move in with you. You hope and pray.

2. Get To Know Them

First impressions are lasting impressions but they are not the only impressions. If and when you are invited back, try to go in with an open mind. See if there is so common ground that can make the visit easier. Or see if they have interest that you have always been curious about. Sometimes once you get past the initial shock, you discover things are not as bad as they appear.

3. Get Going

Just forget it. You tell yourself that your date is a wonderful person but there is no way you can deal with their family. If you go this route be up front with your dating partner. Understand they may give you an earful for having that type of attitude but at least you didn't try to con then them.

Now your dating partner may be sympathetic to your cause. They may love their family but accept the fact they are not to everyone's taste. Therefore listen if they offer some options which will keep the relationship going. If you feel as you say you do than do not make them beg and do everything with reason to see if the two of you can work out a compromise.

Catch him and Keep him...

I came across a book by a guy who was basically telling men what to do get a girl in bed. "How to bag a (insert naughty word here) buddy in 10 days!" The title proudly proclaimed. I chuckled to myself, thinking of all the immature men who would seriously believe there was such a thing, plunking down whatever outrageous fee for the book, only to be disappointed by the fact that (a) no self respecting woman would allow herself to be used like some sort of inflatable doll for his pleasure, (b) a platonic sex relationship can often get just as complicated, if not more so, as a regular long term one, (c) even if he did find such a relationship, it grows old very fast, for both of you, no matter what a man may think.

Sorry, you can't dodge responsibility.

When I visited Catch Him and Keep Him , I felt I was viewing the female equivalent of the above ideology.

The site promises the female visitor that they are "about to learn the secrets that most women will never know about meeting and keeping great men."

It author of said wondrous secrets says that they can make your relationship cheat proof, reveal the five things that women do that kill intimacy, and tell you how to spot a great guy. Once you sign up, you are treated to what is essentially an advertisement for an e-book, with the option to obtain a seven-day trial.

In much the manner of a fortuneteller revealing that they have envisioned a tall dark stranger in your future, this site is a trickster designed to fool people into going against their own instincts.

I mean, what happened to simply being real? How, if you are trying to recall a bevy of rules, are you being yourself?

When I finally met the man I eventually married, I had played all the games, tried to listen to "The Rules", bought into the Oprah/Dr Phil Logic of the day and finally said, "You know what! I am tired, I just want to be myself, and if the person doesn't like it, then lump him!"

Luckily, prior to our date, my future hubby had decided the same thing.

We got together, no rules, just a boy and a girl meeting, who saw one another, and fell, in love.

As a matter of fact, on our second date he told me, "Hey this is me, all of me, take it or leave it."

I grinned at him and said, "I'll take it!"

To me the rules are simple. Be yourself, for as the old saying goes, it is better to be hated for who you are, then loved for who you are not. Trying to act and be something other than you is self-defeating, and all you will do is end up resenting your partner. Find the person who thinks you are fabulous, where you are a virgin or have had more than your share of dancing partners.

All I can say my sisters, is that you are beautiful as you are-don't tie yourself in knots looking for the one-the "one" is the man who will love you for you, annoying faults and all.


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Dating Ideas: Romantic Date Ideas

A good or a bad date can make or break a relation. Therefore, one has to be careful while planning a date. Here are some ideas for a fun date, which will also be memorable.

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'First Impressions are the last impressions', 'The smaller path ensures the larger journey', etc. etc. Such phrases are thrown to new lovers or people at the verge of going into relationships a dime a dozen. Other than phrases, dating tips are also given about by well-meaning friends and family members.

The meaning of dates change as, when and if the relation grows and moves ahead. Therefore, there are different dating tips for people going on a date, depending on the depth of their relationship.

One can also have a talk over coffee and snacks. First dates are an excellent opportunity to know more about the person and also as a chance to tell more about oneself. Therefore, activities like catching a movie or an opera should be avoided on a first date. A first date can have a movie or opera on the menu if a dinner or lunch is already on the cards. However, drive-in are a different cup of tea altogether. While movies in theater do not allow a person to speak or share ideas, a drive in movie theater is a different experience altogether.

Lunch and dinners are time tested and honored date ideas. If you are worrying about the non availability of privacy to talk, go for a candle lit dinner. A candle lit dinner will immediately accuse anyone looking towards you of invasion of privacy. A candle lit dinner will also give you a chance to talk to each other and therefore know more about each other.

Lunch and dinner dates are the best to share likes, dislikes and ideas. In this way, future activities can be decided upon. For example, if a common liking to rock music is found, the next date can always be attending a rock concert.

Other than knowing each other well, dates can also be a good way of letting one's hair down. Therefore, one good date can take place at the nearby video arcade or at outdoor games and activities like bowling, jogging, or over a game of pool. Humor is the best way to start and end the day. Therefore, if your date has a comedy club venue on the cards, it won't be no laughing matter.

Traveling around for a day is also a great date idea. To add some excitement to the date, you can travel by public transport like the bus, train or the cab all through the day. In this way, you can cover a large area of interest in one day, like the mall, the zoo, the park and other nearby picnic spots.

Maybe the most fun and creative date idea is the beach.The beach is an excellent venue for a date.One can spend the whole day on a beach swimming, listening to music and sunbathing. Swimming also creates a huge appetite, so be sure to have a considerable amount of food at hand. While the beach is a fun-filled venue during the day, it has its own life during the night. A silent walk on the beach during the night is a definite good date idea.

Spending time with kids is one of the best ways for a person to interact with others. Therefore, one good idea of a date is going to the nearby park and playing with the kids or even your neighborhood children. You can also play various children games with them, which will definitely be one memorable date.

If you are of a creative bent of mind, there are various creative dating ideas. Some of the creative, yet fun activities you can have on a date are painting, writing, pottery and other group activities. Planning a picnic in a place that offers some calm and peace is also a good date idea. Picnics are also a great way to cut down on expenses while on a date.

By Roy D'Silva